Is it normal for my husband to text his gaming team all day?
My husband plays games at night after the baby goes to bed. I don’t really have a problem with that. Sometimes I get annoyed because he doesn’t always clean the kitchen, so the next day it becomes my job. I talked to him about it, and to be fair, he’s been doing his best to improve.
The most annoying thing is that he has a gaming team, and he’s texting them on Discord all day long. It’s so annoying that I’ve told him a few times it feels like I’m living with a teenager because he’s always on his phone texting.
I know he’s not cheating or talking to other women. I trust him, and he’s very open with his messages and everything. It’s just weird to me that he’s constantly texting, even when we’re together spending time as a family. We don’t get to go out together with the baby very often, so it’s frustrating to see him on his phone instead of being present.
Am I overreacting? Is this normal?
The views expressed in community are solely the opinions of participants, and do not reflect those of Peanut.
Learn more about our guidelines.
Girl I feel pain cuz I'm literally going through the same thing
Not overreacting. It’s a perfectly reasonable boundary for family time to be free to distractions
I think most of it (for me/my experience) is that when we become mums and especially when they are newborns something shifts in us and we all of a sudden have so much responsibility in keeping another human alive. For men it isn't the same. They don't have that shift. Although yes there life has changed but it hasn't changed as drastically as yours has. Best thing to do is continue communicating about him about how it makes you feel. It's so quickly can turn into resentment.
I found that actually telling him exactly what I need him to do helped. I know you shouldn't have to and that he should be doing It anyway but I think it takes men time to adjust into a new life and see that they can't just continue to do the things they want to do all the time.
As someone who’s a gamer and having a baby with a gamer it’s not abnormal . I play a game with a team where I do kinda have to check my messages as it’s an online game . That being said tho I just let my gaming team know when I’m spending time with family and mute my messages from them until family time is over . Not that hard to do and my man does it to . So do the guys on our team for the most part . I see your frustration with that . I would just have a talk about him muting them during family time . There’s life outside of games and he’ll miss it if he doesn’t separate the two
Download the Peanut App
