New single mums / mums struggling/ single mums

Dilemma

My partner is done with me. Made it clear he no longer likes or loves me. He drinks a lot and smokes weed daily and definitely has some mental issues that I’ve tried getting him to address over and over but I’m afraid he just won’t get himself any help. I suffered from bad postpartum depression and anxiety that’s left me pretty rattled after an already traumatic pregnancy and birth so it’s been a lot for him to deal with as well but instead of trying to connect with me, he watches porn and girls on instagram. I’ve exhausted every option I could think of but now it’s more-so me just trying to create a peaceful and safe environment for me and my baby girl. With no family for support and friends ghosting after having my baby, I’m thinking it’s best just to move home to the UK with my daughter and try to get him to realize the life he’s breaking apart. Because I’m not working, he assumed the role of primary financial provider and holds it over me heavily. I don’t see myself as a victim and am not looking to paint myself that way either, I just can’t wrap my head around how I’m going to take the next step you know? I finally confided in a friend today about everything to do with the situation (a lot more than what I’m putting on here) and it made everything seem much more real, and terrifying. Any advice would really truly help. I now fully understand the strength mothers have when placed into this situation and can’t believe so many have to go through it in this day and age.

in our community

Disney films

Okay so I suddenly feel like a bad mum. I know I’m not.. but in this aspect.

So I’ve a 2.5 year old who has the TV on 24/7 - not literally, we go out daily and she also goes to nursery x4 a week but when home, it’s on.

It used to be a range of programs she’d watch, ms Rachel, tractor ted, waffle dog etc but recently peppa has been her comfort and her go to so she watches.

The ONLY Disney princess film she’s watched and likes is Moana. She’s watched a bit of Cinderella and to be honest think that’s it. No frozen, no mermaid etc.

Then I see all these videos online of their kids constantly wearing Disney princess dresses, how they’ll be sad when it stops etc etc. my daughter doesn’t even have any as she never watches 😭😭😭

Am I being a bad mum by not putting them on for her more??? Instead of peppa I might subscribe to Disney+ so I can chuck that on for her instead?

Thoughts please. What age did your daughter get into all the princesses? I feel this is maybe prime time??

What one thing you hate to admit you would judge someone for ( by looking at them )

Comment others , just curious no hate , most of us judge without even thinking about it I think it’s just human nature as long as you take the time to give eveyone a fair chance I think it’s all okay
Mine is probably teeth & smell
I hate to admit teeth too as I know a lot of people have dental issues but my initial reaction is it judge although I’m trying to stop that reaction

Daycare

My baby started daycare today. It was really hard for me I feel terrible, it went well but she was crying when we picked her up and she looked so sad and lost. She only went 3hours I start working full time on Wednesday ans she will have to go all day I feel like the worst mom. I stayed 9 months with her and we don’t have any family around so it’s hard

Is it normal for my husband to text his gaming team all day?

My husband plays games at night after the baby goes to bed. I don’t really have a problem with that. Sometimes I get annoyed because he doesn’t always clean the kitchen, so the next day it becomes my job. I talked to him about it, and to be fair, he’s been doing his best to improve.

The most annoying thing is that he has a gaming team, and he’s texting them on Discord all day long. It’s so annoying that I’ve told him a few times it feels like I’m living with a teenager because he’s always on his phone texting.

I know he’s not cheating or talking to other women. I trust him, and he’s very open with his messages and everything. It’s just weird to me that he’s constantly texting, even when we’re together spending time as a family. We don’t get to go out together with the baby very often, so it’s frustrating to see him on his phone instead of being present.

Am I overreacting? Is this normal?

Major toileting regression!! Please help 😭

My 4.5yr old boy is going to school this time and we mastered toilet training ages ago. Was dry during the day and night. We even ditched the pull ups all together. He was completely independent, even wiping his own bum.

Now he's just weeing and pooing as he pleases. I don't know what's changed. He's coming home with bags full of wet clothes. He won't tell me whats changed. He won't say anything about it. He won't even ask for the toilet. Just doing it in his pants. All the time.

It's breaking my heart every time he does it and not to mention it's highly embarrasing for us all, whenever we go anywhere he will wee or poo in his pants. Play centres, restaurants. You name it. Even school are getting fed up.

Has anyone experienced this and can they advise how to get back out of it?

Chipped teeth in a 1.5 year old? 😭

My daughter fell and chipped her 2 front teeth yesterday. We went to the dentist today & there’s no concern for permanent issues at this time. She said there are options for evening them out that we can consider as she gets older. These teeth likely won’t fall out until 6-7 years old.

I just feel absolutely awful.