Husband and I argue all the time since having a baby

FTM and been married for 4 years. Lately, my husband and I are arguing ALOT. And for the whole 4 years of marriage we NEVER argued. Disagreements here and there but nothing that made us sleep angry. He was so kind and patient with me during postpartum but ever since the baby became one years old, it’s been BRUTAL. Every conversation turns into an argument and it’s as if we are speaking different languages. I try to communicate and use all those tactics like not blaming him for anything and saying “I feel like..xyz happens” instead of “ you always do ..xyz” but it doesn’t work. Anyone else experience this after having a baby? Or have any advice on what I can do?? I hate it here 😭

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36 weeks pregnant

I am 36 weeks pregnant and I have just done my first hand express for colostrum and got this is it a good amount for the first time or not 🫣

Found out I’m pregnant

Hello, I’ve been wanting a sibling for my daughter I just found out I’m 4 weeks pregnant. It’s kind of crazy! I’m having a lot of emotions i can’t stop crying for some reason and my anxiety is through the roof

If your child has an exceptionally loud scream or is screaming most of the day, would you be open to the nanny putting in hearing protection? (Only when directly holding and watching and soothing baby of course)

Not looking for advice on managing the screaming, already working on it closely with pediatrician and nanny. Just the opinion on hearing protection. Not su

Advice on breastfeeding in public

I think I’m creating an issue for myself and I don’t know how to undo it.

I’m a first time mum, my little one is 12 weeks old and I’m breastfeeding. I’ve have fed a few times when out and about, and when at family members houses. They haven’t been awful feeds but definitely not the best. When I’m at home I have my nursing chair and nursing pillow and feeds are easy.

When my LO was 6 weeks old we introduced a bottle so my partner could give him a bottle of expressed breast milk before going to bed and he took to it great.

On a few occasions I’ve not had great feeds when away from home so we’ve taken the bottle with us when we have gone out and know that he’ll need feeding.

A few weeks ago I tried to work on some different breastfeeding positions at home for when we do go out but it made feeds awful. I struggled with the positions and my little one was getting worked up so we both were getting stressed and I stopped trying.

I don’t want to increase the number of bottles he’s having (I’m don’t get enough when expressing to do 2 bottles a day and I want to keep the bedtime bottle as part of routine), but I’m now finding that I get nervous the thought of having to breastfeed out in public. It’s not that I’m ‘shy’ about doing it in public but I don’t have confidence in myself to actually do it well / not completely mess it up and upset baby when feeding, and now I don’t know how to move forward? It feels like I’m failing and I think subconsciously it’s putting me off going out of the house.

If we’re at a family member’s house I breastfeed but again it’s not very smooth and I worry about being embarrassed if it’s a complete mess. We only use bottles if we’re going somewhere like out for dinner etc.

I struggle to find something that means I can support baby and have a free hand to reposition his head/boob when needed.

Does anyone have any advice for positions to use when breastfeeding outside of the house? xx

8m behavior

So I'm not sure when like discipline starts but like I want to make sure that I'm raising a gentleman and I'm still an advocate for men's mental health awareness but some things I just know are not acceptable and right now my 8-month-old is like scratching and it really hurts especially like on my face but I just wanted to know like how to navigate that bc I don't want to get in the way of like him exploring and developing but I still want them to understand like things one of those cause and effect things like I just know like my patience is being tested everyday but I want to be clear on boundaries thanks 🙏🏾

For those with a good birth experience, do you feel like you arent allowed to talk about your birth story with moms who have had bad experiences?

Was once told it was bragging, and another time told i was invalidating other moms experiences, so I havent talked about it much since. It was a good birth, but still agonizingly painful, i still almost had an emergency c section, and a whole person shot out of me which is insane no matter what but Ive feel like im not allowed to talk about it without upsetting another mom or invalidating her trauma, which i never want to do.