For those with a good birth experience, do you feel like you arent allowed to talk about your birth story with moms who have had bad experiences?

I guess there's a time and place. So if someone is unloading and emotional then they might not take hearing a good experience too kindly? But I don't see why anyone should have to hide their experiences. I had a planned C-section, which wasn't what I had wanted and I took some time to come to terms with it but I had a wonderful experience. Things went downhill after the birth though, my baby had to be transferred to a different hospital and needed an operation. I felt jealous for a long time hearing about anyone's newborn coming straight home. But I'd never tell someone they couldn't talk about it because that was my trauma and my issue and didn't invalidate any of their experiences. I think unless you've left out a lot of context the people who have said this to you are just rude and self absorbed! It should be a positive thing to hear good birth stories!

You gotta know how to read a room. If another mom is talking about how traumatic hers was, that’s not the time to bring up how great yours was.

Definitely a reading the room thing. I feel the same but for the opposite reason 😅 I’ve literally been asked not to share my birth story by multiple female family members because “you don’t need to scare other women” or my personal favorite from my step mom “it wasn’t that bad, you didn’t actually die, so, it’s fine no need to hear the whole story”🤣
And like don’t get me wrong if everyone’s sharing great stories, I would never jump in with a horror story for the same reason, to not invalidate or seem attention seeking. But also, hate that I’m told to hide it and now just feel the need to automatically. And hate that we both feel the same way too

No not really, I had an easy birth but went into the hospital really scared as all I ever saw online was horror stories! I don’t think enough good stories are out there

I dont think ANYONE should feel ashamed to share their birth story whether good or bad. But I definitely agree with the others of needing to read the room. If the post is asking for positive stories, a negative one shouldn't be in there sharing their negative story or vice versa. I feel both sides have people that want the other to keep their mouth shut and i find that gross. Again i think everyone should be able to share their story and not get shamed for it.

As long as you’re not invalidating another’s experience, you should be allowed to be honest. I don’t make a habit of lying, I can still be empathetic & be like “wow, the worst part for me only lasted 34mins, wish we could all have my experience/doctor”. My stepmom went through 2 emergency cesareans bc her doctor was convinced they’d fit bc she has wide hips, made her suffer for hours, broke her pelvis & when his head still wouldn’t fit, he finally agreed to surgery & then the awful doctor did it for her 2nd baby too bc he was convinced she was the perfect shape for childbirth, ya know that old gross “child bearing hips” thing.🤮
I myself barely had hips, but they spread a bit during pregnancy, which hurt. As a kid(under 25) I used to hope one day I’d have a more woman like body w/those soft curves, bc back then my body resembled that of a prepubescent boy, flat on all sides. Funny enough, I got my wish & I’m happy w/my body, but it kinda seems awkward even now in my forties. 😂