Anyone else feel the same?

My baby is 3 weeks old today and the love I have for her is crazy but my goodness this is the hardest thing I’ve ever done. Does anyone else’s baby constantly wriggle and squirm, cry for no reason but then have days where they barely cry at all so you find yourself thinking is it reflux, is it this is it that!? But if it was, she’d be like it all the time! Constantly thinking well something must be wrong because most babies ‘have something’. Wondering if their formula is right for them even though there’s no reason to suggest it isn’t. I feel like the Internet is bombarding me with things at the minute around ‘does your baby do this’ then buy this!! But like, isn’t she just being a newborn!?

What I’m trying to say is does anyone else just feel this immense pressure and constant anxiety of ‘are they okay’!! I can never seem to relax

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My little girl is 3 weeks old on Friday and I feel the same, some days she is very fussy and won’t sleep and others she’s absolutely fine so I one day I’m convinced she has reflux or something wrong then others I think she’s fine? Your not alone🥲

YES!!!!!!!!! And it has now tipped me into postpartum anxiety and depression. I KILL myself trying to do everything right. We were just taught by the infant feeding team how to pace feed a bottle and my babies lovely long stretches of sleep have gone and we are making up 4oz bottles constantly which she sometimes only takes an oz and half from but then other times has the whole bottle. It's so wasteful and I feel like we have no more money to invest in bottles. I then went into a spiral about prepping bottles as the 'hot shot' method isn't recommended by NHS. I hate feeding my baby. I was EBF with my first so I do not know how to do this at all. I tried breastfeeding this one and had a hellish journey. I'm trying to stop my milk supply and was working on doing it gradually but I'm so sleep deprived my family made me take pain killers last night to sleep and I missed all my pump or expressing sessions and my hormones have taken a significant dip to the point I'm struggling to get out of bed for my children.

Hey.
I have been feeling the anxiety around are they okay. I raised this with my midwife and health visitor as well as GP to see what support is available.
I have just started some therapy and that is helping. also having had the reassurance from the midwife and health visitor, helped with my confidence.

Firstly, I want to reassure you that you are not the only one feeling this way and my advice is to reach out to someone.

You can do this :)

Same here, but w breastfeeding anxiety around 'Am I doing this wrong?!'

Some days shes so relaxed, sometimes (like tonight) she does not settle and just constantly wakes herself and kicks and squirms and starts to cry eventually, no matter what.

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