How do I explain this to my 3 year old right?

Our neighbour has a child with additional needs, she spends most of the day in the garden, especially on days with nice weather like we've been having recently. (They have their garden done up great for her with lots of activities and waterplay etc, she's always being supervised too. Just before anyone is concerned!)

My 3 year old son and I were out in our own garden today playing football and we could hear the neighbour girl playing in her garden. My son asked me "why is the girl making that noise?" And kept saying "mummy what is that noise?" (I don't know the proper terms but I guess it's like stimming noises maybe?)

I didn't really know what to say, I just explained the girl is happy and playing in her garden like we are. He accepted that and moved on, but is that the right thing to do? Should I have explained more/differently?

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Your answer was completely honest.

My neighbors next to my mom’s house have a son who’s nonverbal, he shrieks and screams and laughs all day long outside. None of my younger siblings & their friends ever needed much of an explanation beyond “that’s just Shane playing outside” (:

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