I EBF my first for 9 months
I only managed 3 months with my second. She is 10 months now and I still feel incredibly guilty for not doing it for longer.
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I think fed is always best. But breast milk has so much that can’t be replicated in formula for gut and overall health and even bonding so I think it’s better in that sense. but a fed child is ALWAYS best. we had to supplement with formula at the start before my milk came in as that was what was best for my baby at the time and I am glad I did and would do again for any future children we hopefully have if needed

Fed is best. My first I EBF for 13 months or so before having to quit cold turkey. I felt bad, but she has grown up great. My second was a preemie so she’d been on formula and milk from the jump. However, I was hospitalized for most of my pregnancy & in/out of the hospital for her first month or two. It messed with my feeds/pumps so I stopped since I was already drying up. I was upset, but she also has been growing fine. She’s over a year now and has hit all milestones. Only difference is that she chugs milk like a champ and my toddler wouldn’t drink milk for a long time. Only just started after she turned 4, but I suspect she has an intolerance. It’s the same with cheese. She’ll do yogurt, but her poop makes it questionable too

Breastmilk obviously has many benefits that formula simply doesn't have, but fed is all that matters. It's nobody's business how anyone feeds their baby (assuming they're not trying to give their newborn a steak and a pint 😅) nobody should ever feel or be made to feel guilty if they can't or simply don't want to breastfeed.

A happy Mum is best. I breastfeed and have been for almost 2 years and I find it miserable. I fully support Mums who choose not to at all, even if they don't try. Being a part of the breastfeeding community has shown me how toxic it can be. So I am a happy Mum is the best type of person, whether that's breastfeeding or formula

What would you have done without formula? Fed is best

I personally believe breast is best (because biology), but understand it’s not always easy, accessible, manageable or chosen. I breastfed my first for 18 months and I can see myself stopping around 6 months with my second who is 3 months now (despite loving it and having conflicting emotions and big feelings of guilt re stopping). Breastfeeding takes a lot of emotional and mental capacity, as well as time and devotion, and I don’t feel I have that this time around!

I couldn’t breast feed my daughter she was born early with that and the stress my milk didn’t come in properly I pumped for weeks and I felt like such a failure but I let that go and she’s thrived on formula I now feel no guilt. You gave your baby the best start 3 months and all that colostrum to start with you should be proud. I read up about all the benefits so really did believe breast is best but seeing how wonderful she is on formula I’m now team fed is best. Don’t feel guilt you did what you needed to do your baby will be just fine x

fed is best. i chose to ebf because that’s what is most beneficial for us, but what’s best for me isn’t what’s best for everyone.

My first was formula fed and my second is EBF, formula saved my mental health and I have a healthy beautiful girl however breast milk is obviously better. Way more benefits, it’s literally tailored to your baby and their specific needs.

Whatever works for mum and baby, both will grow a happy, healthy baby.

Feed is best. My milk took about a day to come in so my son had to start on formula, then he couldn't latch or take a bottle so he had a feeding tube. I pumped so he got breast milk but when he wasn't gaining the doctor prescribed fortified milk so we added formula to my milk.
Everyone's journey looks different. Some people can't do ebf because of supply or medical issues or just dont want to. Its all OK as long as babies needs are met