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Some people are not withholding an apology from you. They are incapable of giving you the apology you need.

We like to believe that if people could see the damage they caused, they would take responsibility for it and we spend time trying to show people what they did.

But what if the same brokenness, immaturity, pride, trauma, shame, or emotional dysfunction that caused the wound is the very thing preventing accountability?

An apology requires self-awareness. It requires humility. It requires the ability to sit with guilt without running from it or trying to be defensive.

It requires a person to say, “I was wrong,” without blaming their childhood, their stress, their intentions, the devil, or even you.

The truth is that many people don’t lack intelligence. They lack the emotional and spiritual capacity for accountability. They're underdeveloped!!

This is why some people pray, worship, serve in church, quote Scripture, and still cannot say, “I hurt you.”

Not because they don’t know God.

But because they have never learned how to face themselves.

One of the most painful realities in healing is realizing that some of the people you’re waiting on for closure are emotionally unequipped to provide it.

And if your healing depends on their apology, your healing is still in their hands. You're trapped in time.

Perhaps forgiveness is not agreeing with what happened. Perhaps forgiveness is accepting that some people are too wounded, too defended, too ashamed, or too committed to protecting their ego due to shame.

Do you believe people refuse to apologize because they are unwilling to take responsibility, or because they genuinely lack the emotional and spiritual capacity for accountability?

Some people are not withholding an apology from you. They are incapable of giving you the apology you need.

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