I need help…
So I have a 7 year old and an almost 3 month old, my oldest in the most respectful way possible he’s driving me crazy.. and I feel bad for even saying that but he’s NOT listening he’s talking back and when he’s not talking back he’s ignoring me. He’s being so disrespectful and yeah it hurts my heart because I LOVE my boys they’re my world but I have a baby crying because who knows why I swear he just likes hearing himself cry then my oldest just not being nice and it’s been like this for over a year. I’m barely sleeping and I caught him poking the baby to wake him up early so he’ll cry and wake me up he’s just waking him up to wake me up😞 I’m doing everything I can, I’m at a loss idk what to do I’ve grounded him I’ve disciplined him and he just thinks it’s a joke… what do I do? And he mostly does it when his dad’s at work. I’ve told his dad and he’s even disciplined him grounded him and he took it serious when it was his dad.
Also I give both my boys attention when the baby naps I’m with my oldest and when my oldest asks me to do something with him I will even if I have the baby in my hands because the last thing I want is for him to feel left out.. 😞😞
Sorry for the long paragraph I just need help. I’m exhausted
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Smack his hand! Gentle parenting doesnt seem to be working, threaten to take away tv, or electronics. He shouldn’t be rewarded for bad behavior. Especially if hes waking his sibling to just wake you up. Be more firm with him. If that doesn’t work, shut off the TV, unplug anything he’ll get his hands on, or force him to do wall sit ups as punishment, or some type of workout as a “punishment”
I’m going through this too with my almost 9 year old and two year old twins. You have to remember this is a lot for him too. He went from being the only child .. your only baby to now having to share you. I think a lot of it is, not knowing how to cope with the changes and wanting attention. I just try to remind him that he is a big brother now and that the twins need him and that we’re all we have and we have to look out for each other. Try to involve him as much as you can in the babies care and make it fun for him! Have a chart of the baby duties that he can help with and have rewards etc. it will get better ❤️🩹
Hmmm..that’s tough. It sounds like his father needs to have a conversation with him about respecting you and that he will not tolerate him being disrespectful. It hurts our momma hearts to be strict and tough with our boys, but that’s what they need. We project our emotions on them and then try to parent them based on how we feel. They respond to things differently.
This is gonna take some major effort on your part, but it is fixable if you start now. I’d start by going in his room & laying in his bed looking at the ceiling w/him. Keep the most open mind you’ve ever had & ask him “did I do something wrong that hurt you”. Don’t do it in that condescending way our parents did “where did I go wrong” BS. It really needs to be heartfelt & you need to be totally honest w/him about how much this hurts & how you just don’t know what to do to fix y’all’s relationship bc, & let’s face it, you feel like you’re being bullied by your own kid who you love so much & you don’t know why he feels you deserve that behavior. If you can think about a problem you had w/your own parents at this age, those are total icebreakers, kids hate when parents say they remember & don’t elaborate, they automatically think you’re lying or didn’t have it as rough as they feel they do, but if you’re honest & tell them the stories, it makes them feel closer to you, my 17yo has heard
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