Where are all the kids hiding nowadays?

I have memories at 8 years old of playing and riding my bike around the neighbourgood, going to the park or swimming every chance I got, feeling safe and having a funnnnn childhood.

It feels like alot of kids nowerdays are couped up in the house. Watching the TV.

Maybe it's just the area I live in now. But where the hell are the kids at. Lol

How often do you take your child out to the park, swimming, bike rides etc

I barely see this now in the UK

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I live in a quiet village which is shaped like a cul-de-sac (dead end road). My favourite thing about the village is that the local kids are always out! They ride up and down on their bikes, play tennis and football in the road, go in and out of each other’s gardens. It’s so wholesome ☺️

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I don't think kids are all inside just watching TV, I think people are less trusting so they're not running around the neighborhood. All the mums I know take their kids out all the time!

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We are always out and about but I would be worried letting my kids play outside on their own. Cars are so fast and people are careless, I also feel like people aren't as trustworthy as they used to be.

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Everyday we are out haha, I know he is only heading for 2 years old but it's super important to me. I want him to love the outdoors, learn about nature and be active

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It’s not safe. I used to live on an estate and my friend lived down the road and for as long as we can remember we’d be let out to play and meet up in the middle on a big field. Came back when it started getting dark or when mum shouted from the balcony. I wouldn’t dare let my daughter do that now it’s not safe at all

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Call me crazy but I recall watching a lot of TV as a kid as well even though I did spend a lot of time outside

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My child is 4 & we go out everyday. Im in the US and I often wonder the same thin. I don’t see kids outside at all like we did when we were kids. Bt luckily I live in a community were there are lots of kids in my neighborhood & several of the kids who are school aged are outside playing. I actually bought them all walkie talkies so they can talk to each other! Makes me feel like it’s the 90s again bt yes it quite odd when I go to the park & I don’t see any kids cuz it makes me wonder were are the hanging out kids at?

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There are only 2 kids in my neighborhood (mostly retirees) and one girl is playing in her driveway nearly every day with her rc car or chalk or playing soccer with her dad. She always stops us to say hi to our baby while on walks and chat with us, often rain or shine. Another boy usually gets off the bus then goes straight home, but every now and then hes got a little pack of friends or cousins something that go around the neighborhood on skateboards and bikes all day. Im a big fan of the "come home when the streetlights turn on" style, once I feel my own baby is mature enough ofcourse!

Our own kiddo goes on walks and adventures pretty much every day (weather permitting) and I try to take him to the pool atleast once a week. Normally hes at the playground or the library with dad though

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I’m in the US. My kids are out everyday that weather permits. We have bad winters where I am. So, we enjoy the rest of the year as much as we can. When I see older kids outside they are always on their phones. Most of the time they are alone. I am in my 40s. When I was that age, I was always with 5 or 6 other kids. It’s sad to me. I want to keep my kids from feeling isolated.

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My youngest spends 90% of his day outside

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We're lucky enough to have a park next to our house. We go there most days. There are plenty of kids there most days too.

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I'm in Canada and my kids have a playground in our backyard and we are often out there for three hours at a time. We are also at the farmers market 2 times a week. My husband got a kite so he can show the kids a kite in a field. We just aren't out with all the other kids.

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In this day and age, I absolutely wouldn't let my kids be outside by themselves. I don't trust people, and I have every reason to. Too many kidnappings and trafficking.

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