Guilty - venting

Okay so I have a 4 year old and a 10 month old, it’s summer time and I’m trying to make it a great summer for both. I feel so guilty that I take my 4 year old out and about to do fun things without the baby. My mother in law helps with the baby when we want to do something that is an all day activity. Baby comes sometimes but she doesn’t nap great out and about so it’s just easier. But I feel so so guilty.

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What do you think about giving the unemployed 30 hours free childcare?

I'm personally annoyed at this. If they are unemployed, at home, claiming benefits then they can look after their own children.
My husband and I work our arses off, paying taxes and others can just sit at home and get everything given on a plate! Paid by me, us working people! What are your thoughts?

Is he right? ...

My boyfriend and I clean together for a company I got him into. I recently lost a friend and there was a memorial for it that I was meant to go to but I had an apartment I was meant to clean. There'd be drinking at the memorial, so I called my boyfriend to ask him to go to the apartment and organize the cleaning bag and if he wants to clean it too he can. He was heading home, complaining that he needs to eat and doesn't feel well and that he has 3 hours to get our daughter from camp.

I'm depleted physically and emotional so I ended up missing the memorial because I fell asleep. He took our daughter to work with him so I could go back to sleep, but then suddenly he calls me absolutely raging down the phone at me about how I should have asked him properly to do this job, that I just take advantage of him and that I just wanted the bed to myself when I should have been taking care of our daughter ...

My husband is really struggling…

Since our son arrived 4wks ago, I can tell he’s just been miserable. He huffs and puffs, and moans how tired he is- even though I’m breastfeeding and doing all the nights. He lacks any compassion towards me. I cried yesterday and he just said ‘I told you it would be hard’. This morning, he hasn’t asked how I am or how I slept. He’s in a bad mood and is banging, thrashing and swearing about the house. We have a toddler too so it’s not our first rodeo but him being like this is upsetting me so much 🥺

What should I expect her to eat??

With finger foods what am I actually expecting my 7.5month old to eat? We started with purées at 6 months and I am transitioning to BLW but she doesn’t actually eat the finger foods.
She has tried a few things and she is happy to put them in her mouth and occasionally suck it but not chew and swallow. If she does bite a bit off, she moves it around her mouth a little and then spits it out. Is this ok for this age? Do I just carry on offering it until she gets the hang of chewing?

She has tried toast, broccoli, omelette strips & penne pasta

Unexpected cost I can't get out of

Sibling is getting married in Japan.

I have 2 kids. For me and my partner flights have already cost about £3000.

By time I add on hotels that another £1500.

I haven't even factored in spending money and food out there.

I'm pregnant and will be in maternity leave during this period.
So this is just going to make finances even tighter.

What would you do?

Nursery presents

I have a 3 yr old and 1 year oldm both go to the same private nursery. There are around 6 + staff working in each room and I know they sometimes swap rooms due to ratios.

Thry work with more than their kwyworkers who have changed through the year(s) . So about 20 staff

What can I get as a thank you present (eldest is leaving)? I don't want to buy tat as I know it will get binned and not be appreciated unless it's really nice

I can't afford a bottle of wine each or a decent voucher cos that would be like £100+