Unexpected cost I can't get out of

Sibling is getting married in Japan.

I have 2 kids. For me and my partner flights have already cost about £3000.

By time I add on hotels that another £1500.

I haven't even factored in spending money and food out there.

I'm pregnant and will be in maternity leave during this period.
So this is just going to make finances even tighter.

What would you do?

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I’m going to Japan next week. I always say spend the money (if you have it) on experiences

If you can afford it: go
If you can't: talk to your sister about why it's too much for you when you'll be out of work. Hopefully she will understand.

I had to miss my best friend's wedding because it was 3 weeks after I gave birth and in Hawaii. I couldn't afford the flight and I had a newborn who I didn't feel comfortable taking on a plane.
I wish I could have been there, but it wasn't in the cards.

We got married in Miami from the uk and my sil refused to go. She was agraphobic so didn’t matter where we got married. My bil and family decided not to go as too hot although could afford it easily. When we decided to get married we did speak to everyone first but decided to take the risk that people may not come.
I think if you can afford it and it’s practical with your kids age ranges (sounds like they are all young) then do it as it will be a very unique experience.

I would go. This is an amazing family experience to do + supporting your sister big event.
I got married in January and I live abroad. I was so happy my sister could make it. 💕

When my brother planned his wedding in the Philippines, I just found out I was pregnant and I was due 2 months before the wedding - luckily it was expenses paid for but I didn’t go, just because I would have had to factor in having a newborn and travelling a ridiculously long route, and spending money which I was already struggling.

He was understanding tbh.. x

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