Nursery - am i wrong?

You’re not wrong. You do you. However, I think the last sentence about all you’ve ever heard is bad/news confirming it, just be aware of the bias that will exist from happy, safe children thriving at a nursery isn’t going to make the headlines.
I totally understand concerns over trusting a setting to care for your child, particularly where there is SEN, but there are also so many fantastic providers and practitioners that you just won’t hear about in the same way you will about settings or particular individuals that get it wrong.

Where are you based? Personally I sent both mine to nursery to help improve their social interaction. My son has autism. My daughter started school with a severe speech disorder. She loved preschool and nursery which I could tell from the photos taken and her reaction at drop off and pick up times. She also made lots of friends and was very social.
It also helped provide evidence needed to get an ehcp so she could have weekly speech therapy from the nhs. For my son we needed evidence for extra funding for a 1-1 and him to go to an sen school.
That said I don’t trust my family to look after my kids. Last time my brother did my son stripped off all his clothes and refused to put them on as highly stressed. My mum can’t react quick enough if something happens and doesn’t understand him.
It’s been challenging at times but overall my son has enjoyed himself although found school nursery a sensory overload at times.

My daughter is 1 and I don’t plan on sending her to nursery but I might do preschool when she’s 3 for a couple days, just to prepare her for full time nursery so it’s not a massive shock being there full time

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with nursery for people who want to use it but it’s not a must have if you don’t want to x

My children at 2 and 1 , agreed with you both staying with us till school at 4 years old for 1st 5years old for 2nd

I don’t send my baby girl to nursery because I don’t have too. But if I did have too I would just make sure it seems like a healthy and safe environment!