Accidentally Found Shady Stuff abt Hubby

Me and my husband share a Google account mainly for the maps. I wanted to look back to see what Thai massage place we used to go to but instead found he searched for a “massage parlor” and went to a sketchy place that has had arrests for prostitution when we were together in 2020. He has visited some other questionable places upon seeing the list of all massage places visited on his Google and before we started dating there were quite a bit of “happy ending” massages in Amsterdam, Paris, Canada, where it is technically legal but the 2-3 I’ve found he went to since we’ve been together are in states where it is illegal. He even looked up red light district multiple times and “how to say condom in Dutch” after searching for red light when he was in Amsterdam before we started dating. This seems like a pattern and something that doesn’t just stop but instead got more savvy about it in my mind.

I am a sahm with no bank account currently so I feel I need to get my ducks in a row and save up some before bringing it up because this could possibly blow up our marriage.

Has anyone been through this? Any advice?

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My husband and I work our arses off, paying taxes and others can just sit at home and get everything given on a plate! Paid by me, us working people! What are your thoughts?

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By time I add on hotels that another £1500.

I haven't even factored in spending money and food out there.

I'm pregnant and will be in maternity leave during this period.
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