How to get into the mindset of loving being a mum?

I have a 4 month old who I love to bits but I can’t help everyday miss my old life and wish I could get it back and then get angry at the fact that I’m a mum and hate it. I feel trapped and miss my freedom. I want to work on looking at things differently and love it but it’s hard. Any help? I have an amazing supportive partner and my boy is amazing but I can’t see it like that.

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with my first one I felt like this too around this age, and those feeling started creeping back in this same time with my second. With my first, honestly I started to enjoy it more when he was able to interact more and eat solid food, then I felt like I wasn’t tied to a bottle schedule as much. If you have a strong support system, don’t be afraid to lean on them and ask for help. It’s good to have some time away for a few hours if you’re able to. I’ve recently felt a lot of resentment towards my partner as it seemed like his life hadn’t changed much whereas mine had, but I had to force myself to take time away for me, weather it was a little spa night upstairs on my own or meeting up with a friend. If you ever need to talk please reach out x

I think part of it is accepting that you don’t love being a mum all the time, and that that’s okay. I chatted with a friend yesterday, both on our second babies, and I was really honest with her about how I was struggling and then we chatted for ages about her also not really enjoying it. I was shocked because on the outside she always seems like she LOVES being a mum and that it’s the most important thing in her life. Hopefully this might make you feel less alone. I’m here if you want to dm me too. X

I had this with my daughter. I really struggled with the lack of control over my life and being stuck to a routine. But the funny thing is having a routine also helped because I knew she was going to be at a certain time and would have time to myself. It does get better and I found going back to work also helped as I wasn't just her mum. I don't have the feeling so much this time but I do struggle with everything revolving around him but I know it will get better as he has less naps and we will have more time to go out

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