Stay at home mama

Thoughts and suggestions: never rely on a man.

Ive been stay at home for almost 4 years. What has helped me with finding time to myself is one day when my husband is off I do something. Whether thats leave and go shopping for myself (not grocery shopping, but fun for me if we can afford it. Or eveb just window shop and wander) or reading a book by myself in a room. Also at night I grt me time to take a long shower (not judt basic get clean and get out but take my time. Play music etc) or a bath.
Cleaning routine is hard. Ive implemented a "closing shift" that husband helps with. It makes doing things during the day easier. But also keep in mind with littles not svery day will look the same and you wont always have time to clean. Thats just reality.
Tuesday work outs- does where you go havw a daycare? Or if you have someone to watch babe, i dont see why you coulsnt. You time is so important in not losing yourself to motherhood. I made the mistake foe a while letting myself become nothing but a mom. Feel free to reach out if you want support.

I still have a cleaner, we are a household of 8 and I cannot keep up. The Monday reset gets me going again for the week and helps me keep on top of everything.

If going to the gym isn't possible try to find a YouTube workout to do while baby is napping (although it shouldn't be a problem to leave her with Dad when he's home)

Being a sahm is a job. And jobs require learning, research, and training. As a sahm u have to use the skills u would have used at a job to be successful and you are your own boss responsible for learning, tweaking, and working as a team with your partner. Watch mom routines, declutter, organization videos, etc to be better. It requires time management, project management of cleaning, babies developmental activity time, manage grocery finance cleaning systems, time for self care, balancing relationships witg friends family and self and being very very proactive in regards to personal development.

😘Make a schedule and use time blocking.
Organize your time. Its easy to doom scroll and its also easy to unproductive and fall into depression. Literally schedule and plan your time with baby, cleaning, personal time, time with hubs. Create a schedule and schedule hubs alone time to hiself, your time to yourself, and time as a family. Its easy for husbands to overlook the fact u need alone time. I also joined a gym with child care for 2 hours at a time.

Project management- make time to learn. Learn systems on how to keep a clean home while managing a baby, cooking schedule or meal prepping routine, time for laundry etc.

Self Development- make sure u keep any licenses or skils current by staying active. Side hustles. Courses, also make sure u are actively involved in finances. Know the accounts, life insurance policy if hubs passes, also discuss disability insurance if hubs get ill or injured and cannot work. I also say make sure u have your own retirement account and accounts that

Literally go watch sahm regret videos as well so u can learn what bases u need to have covered. You have to ask yourself if husband dies or LEAVES what would i need to have in place to be ok and make sure u have that. Personal accounts, saving any spending money, maintaining self care and appearance, foatering healthy supportive relationships with family and friends. Maintaining your credit and having access to funds through credit cards in your name etc.
You must play an active role in making sure you are going to be ok if husband goes on a power trip leaves you. Do not just BLINDLY be a sahm… depending on husband. Be involved and in the know and advocate for yourself. Money, your time, etc.