Pre school nursery.

My daughter is 15 months old and she is due to start nursery for two mornings a week soon, however I am extremely apprehensive about it! I hate the thought of her getting poorly and I hate the thought of essentially strangers looking after her. Does anybody think it’s actually really important that she goes? We don’t need her to go from a child care point of view and developmentally she isn’t behind at all so I’m contemplating not sending her but I was hoping for some advice and some thoughts! TIA x

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I manage a nursery (currently on Mat) and it definitely provides a different aspect that we just can’t provide at home. That being said I’m nervous about my little one having to go to nursery when I return to work too for all the same reasons!

You could also try her for a term and if you really aren’t enjoying it then stop going, you may find she’ll absolutely love it and it gives you a bit of time int he mornings for yourself/to do things. All children get poorly in the first few weeks with colds etc but it does help build their immune system too🥰 Whatever you decide - you’ve got this✨

My son came on leaps and bounds at nursery! They do tonnes of activities that I can’t really do at home/ wouldn’t want the mess of! But also things I’d never even think to do! He has little friends who he really enjoys playing with and has super lovely bonds with his caregivers. It’s nice to watch them have a little life outside of you.

Everyone warned us about constant illness but minus a few colds/ coughs we’ve had none of the big ones!

I don’t think there’s ever a right or a wrong answer. I had to go to work so we had no choice but even if I was lucky enough to be a SAHM I’d still put my kids a few mornings/ afternoons a week just to get that socialisation and play x

I didnt send mine until they went to pre-school as I didn't want/need her to go to nursery .

Just to say I don’t think there’s ever one answer that suits every child! I’ve been a SAHM for 3 years now, and my daughter was more than ready for some form of nursery/preschool probably from 2.5 years onwards. But without working, I’ve had to wait till she gets the free hours the term after her 3rd birthday, which is this September.
If we could have afforded it, I would have loved to send her a few mornings from around 2.5 years. But she has still thrived without it, we do a lot of groups for socialisation etc, she’s got a lot of friends for play dates.

No harm in trying it and seeing how you go! You may find it’s great for you both or you may find it’s not quite right or not quite the right time yet.

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