Do you and your partner share the "mental load"?
Hubby feels everything we do is 50/50. He does the yard work and the handy work around the house. I do cooking, laundry, and groceries.
We do our best to split cleaning amongst us and our son.
Childcare defaults to me M-F since I work from home, and hubby does not.
But I plan EVERYTHING (vacations, play dates, doctor appointments, birthdays, Christmas presents for all the kids on BOTH sides, meal planning, date nights, babysitters, house sitters, even scheduling car maintenances).
Hubby doesn't think mental load exists and doesn't think the planning is all that stressful or hard.
Would you let your 5 or 6 year old go into the caravan (trailer for the Americans) of a stranger without you or leave them unsupervised to do so?
We went on a little caravan holiday. While there, my daughter made friends with 3 other little girls, 5, 6 and almost 7.
The girls asked to come into my caravan, and I told them they needed to ask their parents first, so they all went away, came back and said their parents said it’s ok. They played in the living room with my daughter and did some colouring and a sticker book together, but after about 40 mins I started hearing shouting outside. One of the families was out looking for their daughter and panicking.
I went out and explained she was in my caravan. I was expecting them to be mad at me and they just said “oh that’s fine, thanks for having her” and left me with their child.
The kids ended up staying a few hours more. Every time I asked them to leave, they ignored me, until I said we were going to bed (it was around 8pm).
I found this really surprising and risky in this day and age. They didn’t know who I was, who else I was staying with (it was just me and my daughter, but they’re didn’t know that) and three separate families just left me with their children without even meeting me.
Would you do this?
Husband and his mother
I started to potty train today and of course the first day is stressful and wont get it right,right away. My mother kept telling how to do it,but I told her how am doing it. Made a comment that how am doing is more messier and made it seem am supposed to succeed potty training in one day. My mother in law is a ok person,but I don't ever go to her when it comes to raising kids advice. Husband comes home from work, talks to his mom and basically advice me to use his moms way. I felt so angry. Is not the first time i told him how I want to do certain things with raising our girl,but he always asks his mom for a second opinion and seems to want to do things her way. Had the nerve to even say " you really don't want advice from my mom", am like u know already how I feel about his mom when it comes to raising kids. He has a older sister who also agrees with me. His mom didn't really raise him. She worked a lot and had to put the kids in daycare and family member care. He has two younger sister one is a asswhole, she makes excuses for her behavior and the other one is spoil and use thier mom for money or other shit. My mother respects how I want to try and raise our girl. I usually would agree with what my husband wants,but when he asks him mom it hurts. Last time I checked am the mother not her. I feel so angry for him not supporting how I want to try I even told him I asked more then one person on different methods of potty training. Did the one that i heard the most. I hate when he chose not to trust the things I want to try. Why is it when men don't have great moms they still feel the need to ask them for advice.
