SAHM of 7 cannot compete with husbands co worker

Sahm of 7 who homeschools and has a husband who is a manager and works 50 hours a week. Thought I was doing pretty good until my husband got drunk and told me that he could be with top models that do way more (cleaning) for $20 then I do all day. He’s talking about his co workers who are young and have less children and who obviously work. I told him that I was trying and getting better at cleaning but not having a break was taking a toll on me. He continued to tell me how he was to ignore this honest hard working women while I who doesn’t deserve his loyalty can’t clean as well. I cried. I cannot compete. I’ve had hard pregnancies and this damn cooper iud is hard to deal with symptomatically. What should I do? Is this cheating? He’s with these women more than me.

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My kids are ages 12, 7, 6, 4, 3, 1, and 5 months. I am 33 and overweight. Lazy I guess.

Have you talked about it since hes sobered up?

Did he apologize at all or talk about it further or does he stand by what he said?

Jfc what a dickhead. Being a sahm with two kids is hard, I imagine you have very little free time to clean with 7 children. He should be helping you instead of being a pissy little bitch.
Also a husband should find no one more attractive than the woman who BIRTHED SEVEN OF HIS CHILDREN SWEET JESUS he is a dumbass and you deserve better

Did this come out of no where? Or has he said things like this in the past?

That's pretty harsh stuff to tell your wife & sounds pretty heartless. I'm so sorry he broke your spirit & heart. Has he ever brought this up before? Why is he comparing you to these girls in the first place?
You are raising his children, if your cleaning isnt up to his standards why doesnt he do the cleaning? Im sorry he is treating you this way; that's not how you treat someone you love.

drunk thoughts are just sober thoughts that you'd never say out loud... im so sorry but this is how he truely feels in his heart and you dont deserve that. idk how he could ever make it up to you, does he even regret the things he said?

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