pissed at partner

we have a one month almost 2 month old now and honestly, I am super pissed and I hate my partner. He sleeps at night and doesn't help at all with her and even during the day he hasn't the most helpful either me doing all the cleaning of the bottles and the pump parts and dealing with both of our kids right now I'm just trying to get her to go to sleep and he's laying in bed snoring i want to yell at him to get out he's just making me really mad and I hate being around him. I just have my six week check. All he wants to do is have sex and I don't want anything to do with that. i've tried talking to him but he's just not understanding.

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The next time he is just snoring get one of those carpenters clamps and clamp it to his nose. The sex thing lie and say you got your period back and you’re bleeding. Better yet if you do oral use lots of teeth. I’m sorry this pissed me off for you make him hurt.

You need to leave him girl. I stayed with a man just like him for 5 years. It was horrible

Hate this for you, mine was the same. Thankfully his job was to blame and I honestly said screw him and I made it in my mind that I won’t ask for his help, or expect it. Cause he’s let me down so many times. Tell him how you feel, honestly move out of the room or have each other have separate rooms. I know it sucks to do everything by yourself but it’s more healing than I would’ve thought to make that my expectation and not be let down cause I think of him as an extra child. Yes it sucks. But it’s either him changing (not happening lol) or divorce. Aaaaand I’d rather be at home w kids living the life I choose (when I’m out of the newborn slump, it does suck but it better better babe) and not work or worry custody crap etc. he already doesn’t spend time with the kids, why push him to where he would fight me for it. It sucks to leave behind the fairy tale husband who said they’d do 50/50 ESP with kids. But such is life. Leave him out of your mind, DO NOT let him push you over for sex.

He doesn’t put your health first he’s got to goooo. Sounds like all he truly cares about is his needs

Hey momma, just wanted to say first off you’re doing a great job I know it’s hard especially when you feel like you aren’t being heard & not getting the help.. I would try in the morning once everyone is awake having a heart to heart just explaining you need help & say exactly the help needed, either switching off for feedings, cleaning pump parts, cooking dinner, taking the other kiddo out to do something so you and baby can nap & recharge.. him taking some things off your plate so you don’t feel so overwhelmed. If he doesn’t want to do anything I would also not be in the head space to have sex or please him because he isn’t pleasing you… make him think of that as well and see what happens, obviously it’s your relationship but I would not want someone as a partner if they couldn’t help me with a child they helped bring into this world…

This makes me sad, this is a reality for so many mamas and it’s not right 💔

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My mom is not as present as I thought she would be

Just wanted to come on here and vent a little bit. I’m a FTM and my mom absolutely loves children. She always wanted to be a grandma but said she never wanted to pressure me into having kids if I didn’t want any.

I’m so grateful for my little one. He has filled a hole in my heart I didn’t know even existed. I’m also very lucky to have a husband who is very hands on and we split taking care of him as fairly as possible. I’m out on maternity leave and my husband is back at work so majority of the caretaking is on me right now.
This is not a complaint that I don’t have a good support system in my house.

It’s just my mom doesn’t help as much as she says she wants to. She says she will come and help me clean or take care of baby but when she’s here she just wants to carry the baby and nothing else. She won’t feed him, burp him, change his diaper. Nothing other than hold him. I asked her to change his diaper for me and she said no she doesn’t do diapers. Im guessing she thinks this is doing me a favor just holding him so I can get stuff done around the house but not really when I still have to take care of him and when I do take care of him she’s criticizing me for something. Sometimes I lash out at her because I get frustrated but for me it’s like why are commenting if you don’t even do anything yourself?? I’m starting to think she just likes the idea of being a grandma?

I have a doctor appointment and she’s the only person I can ask for watch baby for an hour and I’m nervous. I know it’s only an hour but she refuses to even learn how to heat up a bottle so I’m like am I coming home to chaos??

Vent over if you made it this far thanks for reading

Husband divorcing me today

Filing papers to divorce me today for his birthday.

He always liked to ruin every holiday. He has never had any sympathy for me. I am just a baby making vessel to him.

He stole all my ideas and got my dream job and now he is abandoning me and our son.

It hurts so bad.

Circumcision

Please no negativity just looking for advice.

My partner would like our son to be circumcised due to religious reasons (hes muslim). I have googled it and it says it doesnt need to be done to be muslim. I have agreed to the children eating halal food, no pork and him wanting them to be muslim but i just dont want to do this. I dont want to see and hear him upset when it done and i also dont want to be the one changing nappies and seeing him sore or anything afterwards. My partner will barely be here and wont change the nappies so i just dont feel like its fair at all. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I am not muslim but i feel like he’s not meeting me halfway at all

SAHMs, how much help do you get from your husband?

I don’t have any family or friends here, so it’s just me, my 19-month-old, and my husband. I’m a SAHM. He works in the office 2 days a week, and the rest of the time he works from home. Most days he also plays games while he’s working. They’re always chatting on Discord too, so even on his lunch break, instead of helping around the house, he’s gaming or texting.

Today I took our toddler out for almost the whole day. When we got home, the kitchen was a mess, the house was a mess, and there was no food ready for the baby, so I had to cook after we got back. Am I wrong for expecting him to help with things like that?

I do all the deep cleaning and most of the cooking. He does clean sometimes, but it’s never a proper deep clean. During the day, he usually takes her out for about an hour so I can have a break.

Our baby goes to bed at 7 pm, so after that we’re both free. He usually just gets on his games, while I’m still thinking about everything that needs doing. I’m getting really annoyed because if I don’t ask him to do something, he just won’t do it.

Relationship problems

Hi everyone,
Myself and my partner have a 1 year old boy and a unborn baby boy due in a few weeks and he has a 9 year old with another woman who he doesn’t have contact with and he said he’s going to get laser vasectomy because he’s done having more babies but I personally don’t feel like I’m not done like I want more babies with him. I’ve always pictured myself having more than 2 babies. I’ve even said that we could wait until the 2 we have are in school so there’s an age gap and he’s still saying he doesn’t want any more babies and he’s getting a vasectomy. It makes me feel so sad and hurt that he doesn’t want any more and grow our family but I’m not gonna force him to have babies if he doesn’t want them. I feel like we are both wanting different things and im struggling to think that we will be okay and I have to put aside my wanting for more babies. My partner gives me and our children the world and I don’t want to lose him but sometimes I feel like I have already lost him(not just because of the baby situation like there are other things). What do I do about this situation because everytime we talk about having more children in the future or someone mentioning more it turns into an argument.

Am I a bad citizen and a terrible example?
So today we went out for a walk & my son needed to pee, bt there was no toilet in site. I told him to just pee on a tree, so we hid & he did! Was I wrong? What would u have done?

I’m also overthinking cuz I’m asking myself would I have told my daughter if I girl child to pee outside?