Am I a bad citizen and a terrible example?
So today we went out for a walk & my son needed to pee, bt there was no toilet in site. I told him to just pee on a tree, so we hid & he did! Was I wrong? What would u have done?

I’m also overthinking cuz I’m asking myself would I have told my daughter if I girl child to pee outside?

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People saying it's wrong was the poor lil boy just meant to piss himself ????

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I don’t see anything wrong with it that’s the luxury you have for being a boymom and I’m a girl mom soooooo 🙃

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It happens sometimes 🤷‍♀️ there is portable potties that are handy if you know you wont be near a loo they are handy to have but when youre just genuinely out and theres no loo then its better then having a soaking wet child, i remember back in the day ny cousin having to pee into a bottle because we where on the road and no where to pull off 😅

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I mean if a grown up were to do it, it would be considered indecent exposure . In this case with it being a child you really just worry about protecting their privacy. Seems like you did what you have to do and I’m sure you won’t just go letting your child pee on trees all the time hopefully 🤣

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I dont see any problem with it. The poor kid had to go and he was able to go. Much rather him go on a tree than have a soaking child thats for sure.

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I 100% support that decision

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I don’t think it’s wrong unless maybe it was a tree in someone front yard lmao but like a rogue tree nah who cares, when a kid has to go they gotta go pronto

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I sometimes used to have to pee in cups on road trips as a kid. It was difficult because I have a vagina, but I managed lol

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