Daycare just venting

My babys 2.5 and shes been going to daycare since late May. At first she only cried for me but she started liking it a lot then she randomly started hating it and then she got sick and was out for a week. Now last week she was back and she hates it. She cries bad the entire day, I thought it was because of another new baby who cries a lot. But its to the point where she will see me pack her blanket or we get up early in the morning and she starts freaking out and screaming horribly. She will even randomly think about it and start crying. I dont know what to do anymore

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Since when did cheating become so normal that everyone expects the person who got hurt to just accept it?

My family isn’t even talking to me. My dad shouted at me and said, “It’s not a big deal. Why are you reacting like this?” His family and friends keep telling me, “Forgive him and move on for the baby’s sake.”

What about me?

Am I supposed to switch off my feelings? Am I a robot? Does my pain not matter to anyone?

Everyone keeps saying, “Forgive him.” Why? For what? He hasn’t admitted what he did, he isn’t sorry, and he hasn’t even apologized. He’s acting like he hasn’t done anything wrong, yet somehow I’m the one being expected to move on.

What am I supposed to do now? Pretend it never happened? Live like everything is normal? Smile while carrying all this hurt by myself just to make everyone else comfortable?

Why is all the pressure on me? Why isn’t anyone asking him to take responsibility? Why am I the one expected to sacrifice my peace, my self-respect, and my feelings?

Yes, there’s a baby, and I love my baby more than anything. But why does caring for my child have to mean pretending my heartbreak doesn’t exist?

I’m exhausted. Not just because of what happened, but because everyone seems more interested in protecting the person who caused the pain than the person who’s living with it.

Pre school nursery.

My daughter is 15 months old and she is due to start nursery for two mornings a week soon, however I am extremely apprehensive about it! I hate the thought of her getting poorly and I hate the thought of essentially strangers looking after her. Does anybody think it’s actually really important that she goes? We don’t need her to go from a child care point of view and developmentally she isn’t behind at all so I’m contemplating not sending her but I was hoping for some advice and some thoughts! TIA x

I've had the worst experience in my life with a ride share driver Should I report her ?

She picked me up and she was non stop itching and twitching. She was asking me questions about my work and Everytime I answered she turn her whole head around and look at me, we were on the highway. She missed the exit and to take me through a expressway and do a UTurn. She then told she has a company worth 400 MILLION DOLLARS! I changed my destination to a gas station. Hoping she won't remember where I live since she read my address back to me when the ride started. Should I report her ?

Do you and your partner share the "mental load"?

Hubby feels everything we do is 50/50. He does the yard work and the handy work around the house. I do cooking, laundry, and groceries.

We do our best to split cleaning amongst us and our son.

Childcare defaults to me M-F since I work from home, and hubby does not.

But I plan EVERYTHING (vacations, play dates, doctor appointments, birthdays, Christmas presents for all the kids on BOTH sides, meal planning, date nights, babysitters, house sitters, even scheduling car maintenances).

Hubby doesn't think mental load exists and doesn't think the planning is all that stressful or hard.

Would you let your 5 or 6 year old go into the caravan (trailer for the Americans) of a stranger without you or leave them unsupervised to do so?

We went on a little caravan holiday. While there, my daughter made friends with 3 other little girls, 5, 6 and almost 7.

The girls asked to come into my caravan, and I told them they needed to ask their parents first, so they all went away, came back and said their parents said it’s ok. They played in the living room with my daughter and did some colouring and a sticker book together, but after about 40 mins I started hearing shouting outside. One of the families was out looking for their daughter and panicking.

I went out and explained she was in my caravan. I was expecting them to be mad at me and they just said “oh that’s fine, thanks for having her” and left me with their child.

The kids ended up staying a few hours more. Every time I asked them to leave, they ignored me, until I said we were going to bed (it was around 8pm).

I found this really surprising and risky in this day and age. They didn’t know who I was, who else I was staying with (it was just me and my daughter, but they’re didn’t know that) and three separate families just left me with their children without even meeting me.

Would you do this?

Stay at home mama

Hey! I recently became a stay at home mom. My husband encouraged it and I thought while she is young this would be prime time to do it.

Here’s things I’m struggling with and need advice or suggestions on how to over come them

- finding time for myself
- not making my own money (I’ve never had to depend on anyone for money)
- cleaning routine (we used to have a cleaning lady once a month) I feel I could do this but it’s hard with a crawler on my hands —or am I making excuses
- I’m still pumping 4 times a day (I’m ok with this I just feel I am still scheduling my day around pumps)
- I recently told my husband I would like to go to a workout class on Tuesdays and told him I wouldn’t go every Tuesday and he said have fun and suggested I’d be taking baby to (this was for me to have me time) I told him I wouldn’t be taking baby

Thoughts suggestions
Please be nice as I’m newly negativing this