🗓️ Choosing not to breast feed

Does anyone else feel the pressure from other mums who choose to breast feed and medical gps and midwives…
I’m having my third child and I am choosing not to breast feed as it was very exhausting for me to do with my 1 at child even when expressing and allowing my partner to feed my son always ended up just wanting me to breast feed instead so I got no sleep… I did not breast feed my second child as I had no milk being produced to feed or express and had blocked ducts which were sore…. I’m due my 3rd in 4 weeks and just feel pressured all the time to try it at first then go to bottles but I feel that will confuse and make things linger for my baby to get used to a bottle of if I do then switch???
Thoughts and advice appreciated x

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If you chose not to breast feed don’t feel any pressure . You have made your choice . Don’t let others effect your choices

Mom of 2 and exclusively formula fed both by choice. Dealt with regret and guilt for a little while that I truly don’t think I would have experienced if it wasn’t for the way society makes you feel like you failed if you don’t try. I was shamed in the hospital with my 1st, with my 2nd no one tried to pressure me or make me feel any way which was a relief. For me, it was the best decision for my physical and mental health. I don’t have any regrets (besides maybe the price point tbh lol). Completely understand the shame feeling, I still get it sometimes when I’m making a formula bottle in public but I just actively choose to not give a shit lol

Do you what, i chose to breast feed my 2nd and the midwives were soooo obsessed with how much he was drinking (i obviously didnt have a clue) he was healthy and doing and fine.. they put doubts in my head as he had lost a little weight after day 5 (he spent his whole first day on earth struggling to breathe) which is most likely thr cause and they TOLD me to top him with formula. Which was totally against what i wanted to do.
I ended up pumping because i was so worried i wasnt giving him enough based on what they said! I was pumping wayyy more than he needed.
Mums cant win because you chose to breast feed and they get too involved and say ti add formula aswell. But if you go with formula from the start they judge you.
Dont feel shame, you do whats best and easiest for you. I have stopped pumping now 6 months in as i was sooo drained from it. Whereas i probably would have breast fed him until 1 year

Much appreciated and feeling better thank you ladies x

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