Baby crying lots

I’ve posted on here about this before and was told it was developmental ect but I just feel like I’ve never known anyone to have a baby that cries the way mine does.
He has been this way ever since we brought him home. Some days it’s from the moment he wakes up till he goes to bed. He will stop for short periods when distracted with toys or being bounced but as soon as he loses attention in whatever it is the crying will start again.
I try to take him out for walks, baby classes even just up to the shop and I find it so stressful and end up carrying him most of the way.
I’ve tried colic treatments, calpol, teething treatments and nothing seems to help. He has normal nappies so I feel like it’s not an intolerance to his milk and he hasn’t started solids yet.
He sometimes brings he’s knees up to his stomach when crying, could this mean he has a pain? and if so how can I help? I burp him, keep him up straight after bottles and give him stomach massages and still see no improvement.
Has anyone else experienced anything like this? Because he’s 4 months old now and he’s been so difficult since day one and I’m starting to think there’s something wrong. Doctors have told me it’s developmental but how can that be the case for 4 whole months? Don’t get me wrong we do have days better than others but this just can’t be right I feel so sorry for him and like I’m doing something wrong but I really don’t know what else I can do nothing helps!
Any advice or stories would help

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How is his bowel movements? My son was the same for months since a new born. My son doesn’t poo he’s now in laxatives and my health visitor told me to give him 1oz of water since he was 3 months old . Maybe a gp appointment?
Sounds like stomach troubles

I would still explore the possibility of a milk allergy as it seems to be the only thing you’ve not tried. My son has CMPA and his only symptoms were the bad nappies. Every other symptom he didn’t have so maybe worth trying just in case?

Have you explored the possibility of reflux?

My daughter was like this - I thought something was wrong but I think she was just an unhappy baby for the most part. It was so so tough but we ruled out silent reflux, allergies, CMPA etc and it just seemed to be something that went away with time. It was so disheartening so I feel you :( for us it started to get lots better by about 6 months which I know feels like a long time but there is light at the end of the tunnel. She’s a joy now!

I agree you should explore CMPA. Did his tummy improve at all with colic milk? My CMPA boy was better on it for maybe 2 days before we went to drs and got his milk prescribed.
Apart from that you could try an osteopath, heard from many people including family members that it helped with their crying baby

Have you looked into reflux & silent reflux. Both of mine have been like this, and it was reflux. Both were put on a gaviscon prescription around 4 months and although they still had the reflux they both became “happy spitters”

Our baby is 8 months and I feel the same! Not so much crying but just whingeing all the time. Not sure if it’s developmental. He has got CMPA and an allergy to soya too and struggles with his bowels xx

With the knee pulling, it sounds like trapped gas and discomfort. My daughter done this for months and had extreme colic symptoms, she would cry so much but it got better around the 6 month mark. I was in the depths with this and I’m sure it made me feel so low and helpless!!

What bottles are you using and how are you feeding? I used Dr Brown bottles to reduce colic symptoms and also pace fed to let them take control, burping after every 2/3ozs in a figure of 8 motion on their back. We were constantly back and forth with doctors who prescribed Milk but I knew it wasn’t CMPA related, just discomfort. I also changed how I prepped bottles and ditched the prep machine, used the hot shot method for all bottles so reduce bubbles.

With the Osteopath as someone recommended above, please look into this. I’ve heard so many good stories how it’s changed their baby!! I wished I tried it with my baby. There’s a group called Kendamums on Facebook, if you need more advice on this. They helped me. X

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Bd silent treatment

I told my baby dad that I’ve been struggling and I’m overwhelmed and I need more support and he said that me being overwhelmed, overwhelmed him and that I’m too mean and he’s been ignoring me for over a week now. He was really shitty to me during my pregnancy and started doing better and now he’s back to his BS.

Solidarity for a sleep deprived mum

I’m just looking for someone to tell me they’re in a similar boat and make me feel better 😭😩

My little one has pretty much always been a terrible sleeper (from 4.5 months and counting). He’s had an occasional few spells of decent sleeping, but it’s never been perfect. We’ve gone from waking up 7 to 10 times a night when he was around 10 months, to waking up multiple times in the middle of the night, to not wanting to fall asleep without being rocked. The latest shenanigan is going to sleep but then waking up around 10pm and staying awake for a solid three hours. We’ve had a few bouts of gentle sleep training, but nothing seems to have completely fixed it – which I slightly expect given all the development milestones. Before this, it was sleeping around 730/8 pm and waking up at 4 am. We’ve tried everything - shortening naps, lengthening nuts, dropping naps, earlier bedtime, later bedtime, longer bath before bed, more activity in the day etc etc.

Even though I know it’s not logical, I feel like I’m doing something wrong. Most of my friends now have kids that sleep through the night solidly. One has a 7pm-7am solidly sleeping baby from about 8 months but during her recent sleep regression when the sleep got temporarily bad, my friend told me that it’s worse to have a baby that is generally a good sleeper, but then regresses because you get used to good sleep. Meanwhile, I can count the amount of times on my left hand that I’ve managed to sleep through the night since my LO was born 🥴

Please tell me someone else can relate to this experience at this stage…

Boy moms

Am I the only mom who son just wants to look at his lil parts and play w it , he pull off his pull up to touch it he been like this since I could remember and he’s only finna be 2

So I am struggling as a mom

My toddler is extremely needy, difficult, demanding, and I feel my relationship with my husband is basically non-existent right now

I also have ocd and anxiety and had a horrible and very traumatic pregnancy with my daughter mentally so there is a lot in common and a huge disconnect there for me

I just feel like my husband and I are floating on opposite ends of the world sometimes

I’m welcoming a new baby in November and feel lost and sad

My pregnancy has been much better this time around which I’m very thankful for.

I suggested couples or marriage counselling with my partner or may even need counselling myself

Does anyone else feel similarly? It is normal to feel like you’ve lost yourself and your partnership?

Does it get better? lol 😭😭

Sleep safty

I co sleep with my baby, and have done for a couple of months now, i only started co sleeping because she was poorly and wanted to be near me and it just stuck. But 2 nights ago she woke up at 2am and crawled off the end of the bed, the guilt i have is so overwhelming, how did i not wake up until she was at the end of the bed?
Anyway, last night i brought her cot in because my anxiety was to high to let her sleep in bed. It took 1hr and 45 minutes to get her to sleep and i successfully transfered her into her crib but she woke every hour, and everytime i breastfed her back to sleep and transfered her and then at 4am i brought her back into bed so she could sleep, i slept with my feet on the headboard and head basically touching the other side of the bed so she only had a triangle with no areas she could crawl off to.
I need advice, please help.
I want her to be safe and to sleep.

sleep help!

My partners work alarm always wakes my baby up, for reference it goes off at 6am and he has to have it pretty loud or else he won't hear it. When baby wakes up he has a 2 hour wake window so i'm sat up until 8am then i only manage to get another hour of sleep in and i'm done 😭 I wish he was like me and would wake up to a quiet alarm instantly but please help?? how do i stop this annoying ass wake window?