Sleep safty

I co sleep with my baby, and have done for a couple of months now, i only started co sleeping because she was poorly and wanted to be near me and it just stuck. But 2 nights ago she woke up at 2am and crawled off the end of the bed, the guilt i have is so overwhelming, how did i not wake up until she was at the end of the bed?
Anyway, last night i brought her cot in because my anxiety was to high to let her sleep in bed. It took 1hr and 45 minutes to get her to sleep and i successfully transfered her into her crib but she woke every hour, and everytime i breastfed her back to sleep and transfered her and then at 4am i brought her back into bed so she could sleep, i slept with my feet on the headboard and head basically touching the other side of the bed so she only had a triangle with no areas she could crawl off to.
I need advice, please help.
I want her to be safe and to sleep.

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Have you thought about maybe buying bed rail guards or a floor bed if you want to continue to co-sleep?

Just dont do it. Thats the best advice youll get

Put a mattress on the floor in a safe room

Hello. My daughter is nearly two and we have co-slept since about Day 5! Our midwife, health visitor and GP all suggested and supported it and if that isn't enough to show that the best advice isn't always "just don't do it" then I don't know what is. I understand many people have this view due to stories about/experiences of bed-sharing (often where it was unplanned or accidental) and I totally understand that people can then feel very strongly about avoiding co-sleeping. It's important to acknowledge everyone's differing views/experience.

So...the safest place for a baby to sleep is a separate sleep space - I don't think there's any doubt about this. But the reality for lots of families is that co-sleeping is a regular part of family life. The best advice in my view is do your research, learn about safe co-sleeping and make the choice that's right for you and your family. It sounds like you're already there in seeking advice to do it safely. The Lullaby Trust has loads of info. Good luck!

Guard rails on both sides of the bed, or making up a mattress on the floor of her nursery as back up for nights when she wakes from her cot and refuses to go back down x

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