Baby always crying

Ok my baby is 13 days old and seems to constantly cry.. my first was not like this and I’m a single mum so struggling.. she is fed (I think struggling with gas/reflux possibly) changed, etc but always seems unhappy. Especially between 5-11pm but now it also seems to be all day. I take about an hour to console her, then 20 mins or so after I put her in her cot then she wakes and cries more and I do the same thing over and over again… very hard to console and I don’t know what she wants… any suggestions? Anyone been through the same? Thanks!

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Baby crying lots

I’ve posted on here about this before and was told it was developmental ect but I just feel like I’ve never known anyone to have a baby that cries the way mine does.
He has been this way ever since we brought him home. Some days it’s from the moment he wakes up till he goes to bed. He will stop for short periods when distracted with toys or being bounced but as soon as he loses attention in whatever it is the crying will start again.
I try to take him out for walks, baby classes even just up to the shop and I find it so stressful and end up carrying him most of the way.
I’ve tried colic treatments, calpol, teething treatments and nothing seems to help. He has normal nappies so I feel like it’s not an intolerance to his milk and he hasn’t started solids yet.
He sometimes brings he’s knees up to his stomach when crying, could this mean he has a pain? and if so how can I help? I burp him, keep him up straight after bottles and give him stomach massages and still see no improvement.
Has anyone else experienced anything like this? Because he’s 4 months old now and he’s been so difficult since day one and I’m starting to think there’s something wrong. Doctors have told me it’s developmental but how can that be the case for 4 whole months? Don’t get me wrong we do have days better than others but this just can’t be right I feel so sorry for him and like I’m doing something wrong but I really don’t know what else I can do nothing helps!
Any advice or stories would help

Can we talk about breastfeeding and weight loss? 😅

Everyone told me the weight would “fall off” because I’m breastfeeding… but that definitely hasn’t been my experience.

If anything, I feel constantly hungry and the scales aren’t budging!

Has anyone else found this? Did the weight eventually come off, or only once you stopped breastfeeding? I’d love to hear other people’s experiences because I’m starting to think I’m the odd one out.

Sleep safty

I co sleep with my baby, and have done for a couple of months now, i only started co sleeping because she was poorly and wanted to be near me and it just stuck. But 2 nights ago she woke up at 2am and crawled off the end of the bed, the guilt i have is so overwhelming, how did i not wake up until she was at the end of the bed?
Anyway, last night i brought her cot in because my anxiety was to high to let her sleep in bed. It took 1hr and 45 minutes to get her to sleep and i successfully transfered her into her crib but she woke every hour, and everytime i breastfed her back to sleep and transfered her and then at 4am i brought her back into bed so she could sleep, i slept with my feet on the headboard and head basically touching the other side of the bed so she only had a triangle with no areas she could crawl off to.
I need advice, please help.
I want her to be safe and to sleep.

Solidarity for a sleep deprived mum

I’m just looking for someone to tell me they’re in a similar boat and make me feel better 😭😩

My little one has pretty much always been a terrible sleeper (from 4.5 months and counting). He’s had an occasional few spells of decent sleeping, but it’s never been perfect. We’ve gone from waking up 7 to 10 times a night when he was around 10 months, to waking up multiple times in the middle of the night, to not wanting to fall asleep without being rocked. The latest shenanigan is going to sleep but then waking up around 10pm and staying awake for a solid three hours. We’ve had a few bouts of gentle sleep training, but nothing seems to have completely fixed it – which I slightly expect given all the development milestones. Before this, it was sleeping around 730/8 pm and waking up at 4 am. We’ve tried everything - shortening naps, lengthening nuts, dropping naps, earlier bedtime, later bedtime, longer bath before bed, more activity in the day etc etc.

Even though I know it’s not logical, I feel like I’m doing something wrong. Most of my friends now have kids that sleep through the night solidly. One has a 7pm-7am solidly sleeping baby from about 8 months but during her recent sleep regression when the sleep got temporarily bad, my friend told me that it’s worse to have a baby that is generally a good sleeper, but then regresses because you get used to good sleep. Meanwhile, I can count the amount of times on my left hand that I’ve managed to sleep through the night since my LO was born 🥴

Please tell me someone else can relate to this experience at this stage…

Transition to cows milk

Hello, my daughter just turned one and I need to change her over to cows milk. I was planning to gradually add more cows and lessen the formula over a few days.
She currently has a bottle before nap 1 & 2 and before bed.
At weekends she’ll have a small one first thing as we do a later breakfast.

How did people transition? How did you do it when they’re at childminders etc during the week? What cups did people use (-as I’ve seen we should move away from bottles) did you warm It?

Tia

Struggling with newborn sleep—what's normal?

my newborn’s sleep patterns are all over the place and I'm not sure what’s normal. how long does your baby sleep at a time, and do you have any tips for helping them sleep in a bassinet or on their own? also, do you wake them up for feeds during the night or wait for them to wake you up?