Kissing babies

Im curious on the different opinions on who is aloud to kiss the baby. I dont come from a close family (physically we all live far apart) so it was never an issue for me but ive see lots of videos of people say in laws or grandparents would not respect the boundaries they were setting. And kissing the baby came up alot. So what do you think?

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Allowed* and I’d say only the parents.

For the first year I was a complete psychopath🤣nobody was allowed to kiss him now that he’s 2 I’ve chilled a lot I let his grandparents kiss him when LO allows it ofc lol

The only boundary I had in place was with my second because of COVID but I didn’t even have to have conversations with my family because they have common sense. Otherwise I’m completely fine with my close family members loving on my children.

I'm fine with most people kissing my babies, as long as we know them well and the person isn't actively sick. Your babies are going to pick up WAY more germs from their older siblings than from most adults. I worked preK and daycare before having mine and used to literally bleach most of the room every day- still saw those savages go out of their way to lick other kids' faces, eat mud, play with the toilet... I think being germaphobic is a luxury concern of the first time moms who are able to keep baby in a bubble.

Me, dad, my mum and siblings (his family hasn’t seen the baby) anyone else makes me uncomfortable. Cousins are allowed infrequently as I know they love her and that’s why they want to but I feel like I can’t stop her secondary caregivers from doing it because there’s a reason I need there support (studying/working) and she deserves to feel love all the time even when I’m not there.

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Am I being difficult?

My 3yo goes to my in laws house once a week. I back a bag with his snacks, toys, clothes and PJs. They pick him up early morning, spends all day there the comes back bathed and ready for bed. My MIL keeps his clothes and I keep reminding them to return it. Once I ran out of vests and underwear because they were all there. I buy good quality clothes, vests and underwear. Before I could buy extra because I was working but now I'm on maternity leave. I just want his clothes back.

Lying parent

I have a 12 week old baby we live at my mums until we get housed but my mum smokes and hardly washes her hands so god knows what else shes touched.. she will then go into my room to see baby and touch his hands and when I ask if shes washed her hands she says yes but I know she hasnt so I then have to wash baby's hands but today he put his hands in his mouth before I washed them! She just wont listen to me and when I have a go she storms off like im the bad guy and tries to make me feel guilty.. will baby be okay do you think? He didn't suck on hands but just put them to his mouth

Is it normal for your husband/partner/other half to not know baby's routine because they aren't the primary carer?

Like when I go out he always asks me what time dinner should and/or bedtime should be. I get he is working most of the time but he does do dinner and bedtime routine three days a week and has done since our baby was born so I feel like he should know by now.

Marriage problems

Does anyone else feel like they are married just not to not make their child come from a broken home ?
My Husband and I used to be amazing and have never had any issues between our selves at all other than ones caused by his family.
They are just the most toxic and entitled. They are chipping away so hard at my marriage to the point where I am
Holding for our baby.
I want to leave behind anything to do with this family and extended family of his and him. But we have a baby together.
Wtf do I do ?? I can’t take this anymore.
I have decided to cut all ties with every single family member of his and he’s fine with that but it’s just being here 100 miles from my own family and friends.
Just completely isolated

Popcorn

At what age is it no longer a choking hazard and safe to give?

SAHM of 7 cannot compete with husbands co worker

Sahm of 7 who homeschools and has a husband who is a manager and works 50 hours a week. Thought I was doing pretty good until my husband got drunk and told me that he could be with top models that do way more (cleaning) for $20 then I do all day. He’s talking about his co workers who are young and have less children and who obviously work. I told him that I was trying and getting better at cleaning but not having a break was taking a toll on me. He continued to tell me how he was to ignore this honest hard working women while I who doesn’t deserve his loyalty can’t clean as well. I cried. I cannot compete. I’ve had hard pregnancies and this damn cooper iud is hard to deal with symptomatically. What should I do? Is this cheating? He’s with these women more than me.