I've had some super painful realizations since having another baby almost 4 months ago. Anyone else with more than 1 child experience that?

A lot of big feelings about my parents and myself as a mother. I had a big one today about myself as a mother.

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The realizations I’ve had with my girls have been mostly around how society treats women and girls. Like, stuff I just accepted as normal for myself that I don’t want for my daughters.

The realization I had with my twin boys is around how boys should also feel safe to express their feelings and they shouldn’t be burdened with becoming “a man” at such a young age. It’s just as important to teach young boys emotional support and regulation as to young girls. This way we will raise the new generation that will fight the toxic masculinity society has put in place for hundreds of years.

That realization is so painful for me because I am in a marriage with my husband. He was raised to embrace that toxic masculinity because his father was emotional neglectful of his wife. His mother made him her new man. So I get the boy who ignores my feelings who is overly anxious protective of his mom.

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Nursery complaint about little boy screams

My little boy has always been a screamer and I mean distressing high pitch screaming. I’ve always worried about it and to be honest I dread taking him places because I get embarrassed. My husband has always reassured me it’s fine but today his nursery have mentioned it so I’m getting really worried.
He does it when he’s excited and when he’s unhappy. But he does do it a lot throughout the day.
Has anyone experienced this with their child or older children and how did things turn out? He’s been doing this since 6 months.

He’s saying about 6 words, ball, duck, bubble, dada, mama, book. Give eye contact, responds to his name, interacts with us. Loves other kids.

Thanks!

Bonding with baby

I’m currently 30 weeks pregnant with my second baby and I feel awful saying this but I’m not bonding with her at all.
I don’t know whether it’s because my pregnancy has been on the back burner as we have lost my dad about a month ago, but I just don’t feel close to the baby at all
My first daughter I’m absolutely obsessed with but I just can’t seem to feel that obsession with this baby.

Even when the baby moves and i just don’t feel connected

What can I do?

Did you struggle with breastfeeding?

Hi all, planning on having elective c-section. Wondering if you struggled with breastfeeding due to the c-section, especially colostrum in the early days?

When did you start extending car seat time past 30 minutes?

At what age did you feel comfortable letting your baby stay in the car seat for more than 30 minutes at a time? Did anyone get different advice from their health visitor or paediatrician, especially for longer journeys?

Baby always crying

Ok my baby is 13 days old and seems to constantly cry.. my first was not like this and I’m a single mum so struggling.. she is fed (I think struggling with gas/reflux possibly) changed, etc but always seems unhappy. Especially between 5-11pm but now it also seems to be all day. I take about an hour to console her, then 20 mins or so after I put her in her cot then she wakes and cries more and I do the same thing over and over again… very hard to console and I don’t know what she wants… any suggestions? Anyone been through the same? Thanks!

🗓️ Choosing not to breast feed

Does anyone else feel the pressure from other mums who choose to breast feed and medical gps and midwives…
I’m having my third child and I am choosing not to breast feed as it was very exhausting for me to do with my 1 at child even when expressing and allowing my partner to feed my son always ended up just wanting me to breast feed instead so I got no sleep… I did not breast feed my second child as I had no milk being produced to feed or express and had blocked ducts which were sore…. I’m due my 3rd in 4 weeks and just feel pressured all the time to try it at first then go to bottles but I feel that will confuse and make things linger for my baby to get used to a bottle of if I do then switch???
Thoughts and advice appreciated x