Can we please stop making posts asking for “mom friends” if you have no intention of actually being one?
I see so many posts saying, “I need someone to text,” “Let’s make a group chat,” or “I just want mom friends,” and then when someone actually reaches out… nothing. One word replies, no effort to keep the conversation going, never asking anything back, and the group chat never even gets made.
At some point, I think some people need to get to know themselves first. How am I supposed to get to know someone who has no interests, no hobbies, no opinions on anything, and whose entire personality is just “I’m a mom” but they can’t even text back?
Being a mom is a huge part of who we are, but it shouldn’t be the only thing there is to talk about. Tell me what music you like. What shows you’re watching. What hobbies you have. What you believe in. What makes you laugh. Let’s have an actual conversation.
Friendships don’t magically happen because we both have kids. They take effort from both people. If you genuinely want mom friends, you’ve got to be willing to show up as a friend too.
When someone messages you after your “looking for mom friends” post, be honest do you usually…
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I used to make post like that a long while back when I first joined but only because I couldn’t see waves and it was kinda successful I made one friend out of it but a lot of the ppl that commented ghosted after awhile even tho I responded fast🫠
And don’t even get me started on the ones who seem genuinely interested in being friends… until they start asking for money or favors.
I’ve had moms add me, talk for a little while, and then suddenly it’s, “Can you help me with groceries?” or “Can me and my kids stay with you?” Absolutely not. We barely know each other.
It’s one thing to need help life happens. But there’s a difference between building a friendship and treating every new person you meet online like a resource. After a while, you realize some people aren’t looking for friends at all. They’re looking for someone to bail them out.
I’m a stay at home mom trying to keep my own head above water. What exactly do you think I can do for you?
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