Bad mental health day

I have no reason for it just last week I was saying how much more positive I was feeling. Then this week gradually as the weeks gone on I’ve become so drained and negative. My anxiety is so high today (yesterday was bad too but I had things planned girls dentist and eldest nursery so I knew I had to get motivated.) today however nearly midday and I’m still not dressed. I feel like a mess I don’t feel like myself anymore and I thought 18 months pp I would start feeling better by now but I never feel good when these days hit, they hit hard.

I don’t like my eldest who’s 2.5 napping now because that means she ends up not going to sleep till 9.30/10 but I’m laying here praying she does so I can just cry. I don’t want to be this mum. I try my hardest to keep upbeat but today I’m really struggling. I literally have no one to help.

I just don’t know when this will get better. I love being a mum, I love my girls so much I’d die if anything happened but I hate the person I’ve become because of the trauma I’ve experienced the last 3 years. I want me back so bad. They deserve so much more than this mum.

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It sounds like you're quite knowledgeable of your mental health which is a great start for the healing journey. You shouldn't be too harsh on yourself though, you got to remind yourself that some days are going to be easier than others because you're simply human and have needs too. Make a check list for yourself like 1) are the girls fed? 2) are the girls dressed? 3) are they safe and comfortable? 4) have I bathed them today or yesterday? As long as the necessities are completed that's all that matters most. Parenting is a relationship in itself, there'll be days you'll be able to provide 100% and others are going to be only like 20-40% and you have to respect that the efforts are no less noticeable. Keep going Mama! Don't let your crown slip 🥰💜

I had a day like this yesterday. I've cured it with a morning in town taking my lad to playgroup and then for a bit of shopping and quick lunch. At best when you're having a bad day planning a nice delicious dinner can help lift your mood x

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Let the bad days come and go. You’re very aware of it and that’s the important part. Some days my children are literally the only thing getting me up and out of bed and that’s ok. No one is perfect and has it all together, all of the time. Going for a walk with my music on always lifts my mood or even just go to the park for a change of scenery.

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