Ultrasound Appointment

Should I be angry that my 20 week scan is coming up and boyfriend seems likes he’s not even really don’t care to be there knowing how stressful and how much anxiety I’ve had during this pregnancy as it’s right after a recent loss of our infant child? He has to work but has called off not too long ago due to being at his family event and being overly tired as he works 12 hour shifts and instead of getting rest he decided to hang out two days in a row with them. Ultrasound is at 3 and he has to be at work at 5. Like you can stay for a sec and leave out for work or let them know you’ll be a tad late if that’s what it calls for something. I’m on edge here ladies!

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Hate to sound harsh but they don’t care like we do. Just let him do what he wants because you don’t want to have that angry energy for your baby’s sake. I’m going through the same thing. Maybe ask another woman to go with you. I know it’s not the same but to feel supported with someone is better to not feel supported at all by the person you want it from.

Ugh. I’m so sorry to hear. That’s really crappy. I would send him reels on how other fathers care etc… idk I do that to mine and mine always does everything to move heaven and hell to be there. He ran across 2 giant parking lots because he was 10 minutes late because I asked him to get me something to drink. I’m so mad for you and sometimes you just need other men tell them. Men listen to men unfortunately. It sucks but it’s true sometimes. I’m so sorry you’re going through this :(

I would not ask him to come with me to no appointments and leave him at home during labor, let him wait for the baby at his family house since that’s where he wanna be at during the pregnancy 😚 that’s just me tho of course we all have different opinions and ways to handle things but if you’re pregnant, no one is worth a drop of ur thoughts and stress cuz whatever u feel baby feels too

I'm so sorry for your loss... I can't imagine how that must feel ... all of it. Reasonably, it seems like he should be able to be there for at least part of it. But unfortunately you can't really make anyone do anything, or make anyone care more... and that's really hard to swallow. I know it is for me. But do know that there are at least a few people on here that care about and support you through this hard time! I will definitely pray for you! I wish you the bestest of luck! 💖

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I’m currently 36 weeks pregnant and the whole pregnancy I was adamant about having an elective c section as my 1st baby (he’s 1) was an emergency c section and tomorrow I have a consultation appointment at the hospital to sign c section forms and to go through the birth plan. Yesterday I had a complete 180 and I’m now wanting a vbac for multiple reasons. I haven’t done any exercises to help my body prepare for that kind of birth and I’m now thinking I left it too late to have a vbac successfully. Has this happened to anyone before? Also what do I need to pack in my hospital bag for a vbac?

I can’t be the only one? 😭

Hi everyone. 🤍 I’m Lauren, 35 years old, and I’m currently 7 weeks 5 days pregnant with my first baby.

To be honest… I’m really scared, and I just need to know I’m not alone.

This pregnancy has hit me so much harder than I ever imagined. I’m dealing with:

* Extreme exhaustion where I feel like I could sleep all day.
* Severe pregnancy insomnia where I’m somehow exhausted but awake most of the night.
* Constant nausea, dry heaving, and food aversions.
* Anxiety that’s been through the roof.
* Crying almost every day.
* Feeling guilty no matter what I think or do.
* Carpal tunnel pain in both hands that wakes me up.
* Dry lips, feeling dehydrated, and just generally feeling like my body isn’t my own anymore.

Mentally has been the hardest part though.

My relationship has become really strained since finding out we’re expecting. Instead of feeling excited, I’ve been overwhelmed with fear about our future, wondering if we’ll even make it through this together. Some days I feel hopeful, and other days I feel completely alone. I hate admitting that because this baby deserves parents who are excited, and I wish I felt more like myself.

I feel guilty because I thought pregnancy was supposed to be this beautiful experience, and instead I feel like I’m barely surviving some days. I’m terrified that I’m going to feel like this for months.

Has anyone else struggled this much in the first trimester? Did it actually get better? And if your relationship became difficult during pregnancy… did you find your way back to each other?

I could really use some encouragement right now because I’m scared, overwhelmed, and honestly just need to hear that I’m not alone. 🤍

Sending love to anyone else who’s having a really hard time too. 🫶🏼

6 week check up

Did anyone else expect that they would be asked how they are feeling/healing as well as the baby’s development/check up at 6 weeks?

Not sure if I was a bit naive expecting the doc to ask about how I was doing after forceps / episiotomy birth.. and if stitches had healed ok?

Baby Name Ideas?

I’m pregnant with my second baby and don’t know the gender yet, so I need boy and girl name ideas! My son’s name is Xander, so I want it to go with that. Edgy, but not too out there. Our last name is Tooke (pronounced took). Thank you!

If you were aiming for a VBAC, how many weeks pregnant did you have your consultation appointment?

Immediately at my midwife booking appointment I told the midwives then that I wanted a VBAC, they told me I would have a consultation around 28 weeks. At my 16 week appointment I brought it up again (different midwife) and she told me it would be around 32 weeks. When I had my 28 week midwife appointment, she told me it's usually 36 weeks (which seems very late to me) and said if I didn't have an appointment letter by 34 weeks she would follow up. Obviously I don't want this to be last minute because I want to know my chances and options without everything being rushed if I CAN'T have a VBAC. This pregnancy has been stressful enough, having last minute changes would just make things 10X worse. So just wondering when everyone had their consultation appointment? When I looked online it said between 16 and 28 weeks then a final one at 32-34 weeks 😭