Im losing my patience

My 16 month old is honestly driving me absolutely up the wall...

She doesnt listen to be which causes me to raise my voice.

Little context she is a little madam we have already introduced the naughty corner so for any unacceptabke behaviour like hitting or biting she gets put there for a minute will then get to her level and explain we need to use kind hand ect

But she seems to be grabbing everything she knows she isnt aloud even if its up high she will find a way to get to it I redirect her saying no thank you we are not aloud to do that but she will then continue to do the exact same thing over and over until I in the verge losing my shit at her.

My partner is no help at all when it comes to disciplining behaviour. Even after multiple conversations asking him if she does something that isnt aloud you must redirect her and tell her why she cant have it.

Im trying to stay calm when telling her off as well and trying to regulate myself as well and breaking cycles from how I was brought up .

Can I please have some advice from mumma that are also trying to break cycles 💔

Read more on Peanut

The views expressed in community are solely the opinions of participants, and do not reflect those of Peanut.

Learn more about our guidelines.

Add a comment

I found some helpful tips in the book "how to talk so little kids will listen". I personally don't see the benefit of a naughty corner particularly at such a young age- I know they seem to understand a lot and they do, but they are also lacking forethought and impulse control, they aren't trying to be "naughty", often they are just looking for a reaction. We do natural consequences so it makes sense to them. Like, if you hit I am going to move away from you and not give you attention, if you can't stay away from that item I'll have to put it away/remove you from the room.

You can try a different approach. Try minimal reaction to the negative behaviour such as simple redirection and calmly saying 'no thank you, we dont do that' and simply step away, giving very little reaction. Then give big reactions to positive behaviours such as giving praise and extra attention when you child behaves well, even if its something small. The more attention your child gets, the more they will try to replicate it, so it makes sense that if she gets more attention for bad behaviour then she is more likely to keep doing it. So this means if she gets more attention for good behaviour then then shes also more likely to keep doing that. If that makes sense. 🙈

in our community

?

Hi mamas 💕 I wanted to ask if any of you have experienced this with your baby. My baby recently fell off the bed, and I’m feeling very worried. He cried right away, calmed down, and has been acting normal, but I would love to hear from other moms who have gone through something similar. Thank you 🤍

I feel like the world’s worst mum ever.

Yesterday my baby, nearly 1, fell from his high chair. I took him to a&e and they said he is fine but to just keep an eye on him. I honestly can’t shake this feeling away especially that I didn’t get to him quick enough. I feel like the worst mum in the world, I’m not eating, I’m not sleeping and constantly crying about the whole thing. My poor baby; he has a small bruise on his forehead and a bruise and a scratch on his knee. I’m absolutely devastated about the whole thing

what’s happening with my baby

my little girl is 2.5 weeks old. she has been latched onto my breast since 5pm, it’s now 11.30. i wish i could say i was exaggerating but she’s literally been feeding for 6.5 hours. she screams between each breast too.

she’s been awake the whole time and now she’s extremely overtired and won’t sleep. she’s had a 3oz bottle of breastmilk and is still rooting and chewing her hands.

i just don’t know what’s wrong with her or what to do.

Poop issue

Hey 👋🏽 First time momma here 🙈Anyone else’s baby boy struggling with no pooping? My boy is 3 months and 10 days old and today it’s his 23rd day without any poop only some smears on the cheeks! We went to see his pediatrician and I do the bicycle legs every day but i’m really concerned now about this situation. I feel lost and like i do something wrong. (He’s exclusively breastmilk fed baby).

So a little update! After his 23 days almost starting the 24th day HE FINALLY POOPED!!!! 😻💕 I gave him some formula then 3 hours later he spitted up half of what he ate then he went back to sleep woke up half hour later spitting up a little more then he fell asleep on my chest and I heard a fart… then a second fart where you know that “okay that fart actually wasn’t just fart” moment so i checked his diaper and a huuuge amount of poop finally 😻

Newborn advice please?

My 2 week old is going through a shift. He isn’t eating as he did when we first brought him home, he hasn’t pooped in about a day or so and he’s crying so much more. I know I’m mostly worried over nothing, but is there anything I can do to help him or make him more comfortable? TIA

Double push chair

Hi I'm going to get a double pushchair any advice on which style would be best , one were there sat side by side or one were one will be sat behind the other?