Have I damaged my child with refusing nursery?

So my mum was a stay at home mum for 16 years with me...she only had me and was a single mum. She told me its better for children to have their mother there so I gave up work which is really hard for me as work was everything to me....
I thought maybe i would try child care two days a week when I was pregnsnt and so I could compromise. My baby is super super sensitive like me however.
He is now nearly 2 and will not even look at new people he just wants them to go away. He cries at playgroup and asks to leave. I have no idea how I will integrate him into a preschool setting...
My friend effectively said I've made the wrong choice not starting nursery early because he doesn't have other siblings or cousins and now he's scared of everyone. He said young kids should be in nursery as a social setting.
Meanwhile im listening to psychology experts saying kids should be with primary care givers until they are 3...
I am in tears I do not know what to do...ive heard so much conflicting advice ....

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Don't beat yourself up X every child is different! My mum stayed home with me and my sister and we were well adjusted and ready for school but then I sent my two older children to day nursery before school and they both turned into happy well adjusted adults!! You have to do what's right for you and your child. Everyone has an opinion but unless they're in your shoes they don't know what is right for you. Sending love and hugs your way🤗 xx

There is no wrong or right way to parenting everyone is different

Like everyone says, every child is different and no you haven’t damage your child. Nursery is just to help adjust to the environment and does help with socialising and what not. You just do what you feel is better for you because end of the day, you still have to deal with it. Hope this helps. xo

You did not make a mistake. You can’t know if he’s be the same or different going or not. Maybe start branching out and trying nursery in a day or two a week and see. Maybe go out more to where there are different people so he can get used to them. Mom groups, church, stores things like that. Do you think you’ll have another child? Where he can eventually learn to be with another kid inside the home instead of just around. If not that’s totally fine but I know sometimes that can be easier if you don’t have places to go with other kids

Don’t beat yourself up, my daughter is 3 and has never been to nursery and is really confident/social. I just think all kids naturally have different temperaments and you haven’t ruined him at all Xx

Honestly I’ve done the same thing, listen to the experts wait until three if you do want to send him, if he will be going to school preschool will probably help him.
I take my kids I have a 3 year old and a 20 month old to loads of play groups to encourage socialising although it isn’t important under 3
My oldest is pretty shy but honestly I don’t think nursery would make much of a difference as i think these things are down to temperament and my youngest is much more outgoing although younger (I was also very shy as a child although I went to nursery so 🤷🏽‍♀️) I’d say keep going to playgroup and play with him unti he begins playing by himself and eventually other children
Ultimately there’s a reason experts are experts and they have done tons of research following children into adulthood and the goal is to raise healthy adults right
Try not to worry about what other people say ❤️❤️❤️

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Would you be annoyed?

My partner is getting up for work at 5am - he’s getting up having a shower and shave and just being loud.
The little boy is now awake at 5.20 because of it and I’m absolutely shattered!
My partner said he needs to shower and shave in the mornings.

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Guys I'm about to crash out. My daughter is going through what I can only describe as terrible 2 but she's only 9 months old. My husband recently took a new job but it's night shift so he is gone from 5:30-5 but by the time he wakes up in the morning I'm basically all alone with our daughter from 5:30pm to 2pm the next day. Usually he has Thursday, Friday, and Saturday off so I let him rest as much as he wants Thursday and Saturday and ask him to take her Friday. Well he just told me that he works tomorrow because he has mandatory overtime (which he's known about for a week) and won't be able to take our daughter Friday as it'll be his rest day and I usually give him Saturday. Literally the only thing keeping me sane was the fact that Friday I could finally have some me time after what has been one of the worst weeks I've had since becoming a mom. I'm literally curled up on my couch crying as I type this trying to get my daughter to sleep cause she refuses to and has been for over a month. Please help.

Would you take you kids to a place you know has no phone service?

I had the urge just now to take my kids up to the mountains where there is absolutely no cell service. I don’t know if it’s because I’ve never been on my own or my anxiety but I full on panicked after thinking about it. Like what if something happens? I’d have to drive almost an hour before I got service. My mom used to do this all the time with us as kids. Please tell me I’m crazy and to just go have fun

Do you think its important for your child to socialize with other children from their class out of school?

Im talking lower school, where you are also socializing with the mums

MIL - Need advice please?!

So guys please can you tell me if I’m overthinking, Over reacting.

So my MIL has my daughter who is currently 6 months over night every other Tuesday & Takes her out for the day (walking with the pram on Wednesdays) 10-5 usually

She’s started saying we need bits (which we do) like a sun shade umbrella & a Dummy clip ect. She then shows off she’s brought them but is weirdly over protective of them. I thought she’d buy them for us - everyone to use. As it’ll be for the Pram?! For my Daughter?

Anyways my fella has also seen & felt it. Bringing the Dummy clip out of her back to attach it and then when she’s bringing her back un attaching it and putting it back in her bag. These are items we could do with it’s just strange that’s she’s like I’ve brought them there mine sorta thing.

I don’t know like ofc when I get some money I’ll buy these myself but I mentioned wow £30 on a sun umbrella no wonder you
Don’t want to give it us, and she just said yes it’s very good. To see what she replied to and wasn’t expecting that really. Just feels pointless her buying for 1 day a week.

I don’t know if I’m over reacting but I feel it’s ODD. Like I get what she’s spend her money it’s hers and her choice & I shouldn’t feel like she has to give me because it’s my baby. But knows we could Do with these things and struggling with money ect. The first thing is put it on and off the pram when she’s comes and leaves. I don’t know just wanted some other mums advice see what there thoughts were.

Anything she has at her house I’ve provided, Cot, Toys ect. So it’s not like she’s provided all these items and I’m taking the mick out of her.