Thoughts? Overreacting?

Context - So both my husband and I work full-time. I am the breadwinner and always have been. My role/career can be stressful and I recently switched to a new company 3 months ago. The pace and pressure at this company has been a massive adjustment. I am in meetings and high pressure situations quite literally the entire day - with little to no downtime.

My husband works in higher education and the pace during the summer is very slow.

Yesterday - my husband took the day off and went to the beach to relax. He came home tired because he had been drinking and was in the sun all day. He started to doze on the couch and I said “hey I need help with bedtime tonight” as we usually alternate and I had worked all day, managed dinner, daycare pickup, bath etc. He was groggy but read books and didn’t say anything.

Today - I left the house at 7:30AM and got home at 7:30PM. Back to back all day, I slept poorly last night and expressed how exhausted I was. I picked up dinner for us but otherwise my husband helped with daycare pickup and my son’s dinner because he got home from work at 3:30pm. I fell asleep on the couch after I got home while my son was watching a show.

Next thing I know my husband is turning on all the lights full blast saying that I should be doing bedtime and to wake up. And that I did that to him yesterday so - my turn. He did this in front of my son and I’m honestly just livid. Yes, I did ask him to wake up yesterday after he had the DAY OFF at the beach and I worked all day/managed the evening routine to that point.

I worked a 12 hour day today, said how tired I was and was already actually fully asleep. I am just so mad. I understand he thinks the two situations are equal but they simply aren’t. If he had worked all day yesterday and was falling asleep then I wouldn’t have asked him to help last night. But he didn’t - he went kayaking and lounged on the beach….

Am I overreacting? I just feel so disrespected.

in our community

Almost two year old playing with poop

I just need to to if this normal life little boys playing with their diapers, especially when it’s poopy he wears clothes where he cant get to his diaper but he ends up getting in there, and it not just his poop he like to play in the cat littler as well. I don’t know why but he does, and I don’t know how to stop it.

Would you give your 5 year old baby food pouches, teething wafers, and yogurt melts?

I'm genuinely confused and kinda concerned why a parent would choose to do this when their child that has no special needs or dietary restrictions.

What excuse would you give work?

I’m 25 weeks pregnant and going through a mid life crisis 😅 I’m balls deep in sorting through baby clothes, nesting, organising, cleaning. I’ve got work on Saturday (tomorrow), Sunday, Wednesday, Thursday and Friday. All 12 hour shifts, 2 of which need to be in office, the rest wfh.

Theres so many things on my to do list and I feel like I’m drowning. I’m hot im sweaty and I’ve had enough. My parents are visiting for a week next Saturday and getting the house in order in my 2 days off while getting my toddler in and out of nursey on the bus just feels impossible. I feel like I’m about to lose it.

I’ve had a week like this back in May, I called in sick for a week, did some life admin, relaxed, spent some lovely quality time with my toddler and had some lovely days out I really recovered mentally. I feel like I need another one of those weeks ASAP.

Last time I told work I had a kidney infection, what excuse would you give now?

Feeling dumb and alone

I’m 7 months pregnant today. My child’s father and I just can’t seem to work. I’m feeling so guilty for bringing a child into a broken home, and feeling so alone. I know it sounds dumb but I’m missing intimacy which I haven’t had in so long. I also can’t get over the fact that I’ll have to share custody with him, I can’t imagine handing my baby over to him and not being able to keep him with me. I can’t believe this is how my first pregnancy is going. I don’t think I will ever forgive myself for doing this and will never forgive my child’s father for not doing what he needs to for us.
I have never felt so dumb, so alone, and just shameful.

Getting child to wipe after going poo

Anyone have any tips to get a child to wipe their butts after pooping? My son had a delay with potty training so I really haven’t gotten on him about it…he was fully potty trained at 5.5 years old..but he’s 7 now and I don’t want to let him get too far behind and he’s not really motivated by rewards.

Is my sentimental lawn decoration racist?? Very upset and not sure how to handle this situation!

Hi! So for context… when my daughter was 3, her dad/my husband died in a motorcycle accident. I was pregnant at the time, and shortly after I miscarried (Dr said probably due to stress from everything happening at the time). Anyways, a week after I miscarried, my friend convinced me to bring my daughter to this fall fest with her and her kids, where the children got to make scarecrows but stuffing donated clothes with hay, and a drawing a face on a stuffed pillow case for the head. My daughter told me that day she was naming her scarecrow “brother” so she could still hug the baby I lost. We have has this scare crow for several years now, and it just kind of sits in our yard, proper up on our porch railing… she goes out there and talks to him, and she hugs him every day and tell him she loves him. He’s pretty old, and the weather has not been kind so his face is completely gone now and his clothes are all faded. But she doesn’t care. He’s become a part of our daily routine, and he’s a very sentimental part of our lives. I also want to add we live in rowhomes with main roads on both our front and back yards, meaning he’s visible where ever we put him.

My neighbor knocked on my door recently and said my “white hooded scarecrow” is racist and they would like it removed. I tried to explain its significance and that it’s just weather worn and not meant to be offensive at all, but they didn’t care and made a huge scene. I tucked him in our shed for the night so the neighbor would leave, but was very rattled by the interpretation. I don’t want to throw him away, but I don’t want to make anyone uncomfortable and now I just feel helpless and not sure what to do…. I’m scared if I bring him inside incase he has bugs. I don’t really want my daughter sneaking into our shed, where I keep my yard tools that are dangerous….if i need to get rid of him, how do I explain this to a 6 year old?