Feel like I’m drowning

I work full time as an accountant and I have a 3 year old. Lately I feel like everything is overwhelming and work can be mentally draining at times. I literally don’t have time to cook proper nutritious meals or have any time for myself in between work, doing nursery pick and drop offs and we have just moved house. I spoke with a GP to explain how I’m feeling etc and they said they would sign me off work for a week or two if I feel I need that. Now of course it would be great to have some time off work to decompress and recharge but I don’t really want my team wondering ‘oh what’s wrong with her and is she not capable of handling the job etc’. I really don’t know how people manage multiple children as I only have the one child but I really am struggling at the moment. Just wondering how everyone else is coping.

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So sorry you’re feeling like this🤍
It’s totally understandable and to be honest I’ve been feeling rather overwhelmed and discouraged myself yesterday. A full time job and house and child and husband is a lot onto manage. On top of it, one still has to find time to maintain friendships as well. We’re in the same boat and I have 2 small kids and a full time job and currently trying to make my side hustle a full time job so that I can leave mine as a teaching assistant in order to be more flexible.
If I were you, I’d definitely take the 1-2 weeks off. And use it to get the new place sorted and taking time for yourself. Just today I was thinking that I haven’t been out without the kids in months and it’s starting to affect me. So maybe next weekend if I can’t find a girlfriend to join me, just go out to watch a movie or have dinner by myself. Don’t worry too much about work and what who will say. At the end of the day, everyone’s situation is different.

My baby isn't even here yet and starting a new job while pregnant, exhausted, with a hip where the ligaments have loosened enough that walking hurts, while trying to get a nursery together and SD moved around to summer camps has me feeling overwhelmed. You are not alone!

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I ultimately asked her what she thought and she pieced together that since Elsa has magic, she isn’t real. I’m a little worried that I have taken the fun out of princesses. 😅

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One day hes all for me, agrees with me in parenting, is helpful around the house, affectionate.
The next day its like he tries to disagree with me on everything, hes loud and annoying

In a pickle…

MIL fell out with us since Mother’s Day (March 2026) because she said my LG is 6 months old and she’s still not had her on her own. She asked if we don’t trust her or something in which I replied not really because you haven’t show me the confidence you can look after her. (Bearing in mind, she comes once every 10 days and stays for an hour at most, never offers to change her nappy when she’s around and doesn’t give her bottle. Basically knows nothing about her. When she was 4 months she told me to lie her in the bath to let her splash). I haven’t spoken to her since March after she stormed out, but in the mean time my husband went to speak to her about what happened and cut a long story short she’s blaming me for everything and now has asked my husband to pick our LG to go her house without me. I’ve said to husband if she wants to come and see her she can come to ours, if she doesn’t agree then I will go with them to MIL house. What would you do in my shoes?

Partner Rant

Why do I feel so angry? He is a great dad but crap partner.
In my eyes he puts himself first and his needs, gym everyday 630am then goes straight to work. (which in the 2 years we have been together he has NEVER been to the gym). Today has gone for an all day tattoo session he works mon and fri 9-5 so weekends are what I class as family time. He won’t even offer to get up with the baby to give me a a lay in, I’ve mentioned it but every time I do it becomes an argument and we go back normal. He also has a child from previous relationship so we have him every other weekend and he is pre teen so doesn’t want to do anything so we get dictated by him on what we do on his weekends which my partner just allows. Along with the attitude and disagreements that I have to just grin and bear.

I feel like I have to beg for him to spend time with his baby and me. When he is home he is on his phone or moaning he tired ALL THE TIME.

I love him and I really want to make it work but at the same time I feel like I am being taken for granted in my own home.

Advice please 🤍🙏🏻

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Hey mamas,

Hope you're all doing okay & haven't yet passed out with the British heat we've been getting recently 😬😭😂

My daughter will be 3 this coming October (🥹where😭has😭the😭time😭 gone?!😭)

I'm wondering, if mamas with kids around the same age, have you started looking at/applying to schools yet?

What are the first steps that I need to take?

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