Definitely hard to make friends

I got stood up… we made plans to hang out at the pool no call no show no contact, I reach out no response so odd to me .. now I see why people say it’s hard to make friends or people just ghost you .. this is my first time pregnant my husband away in the military I’m not from California all my family is home so I’m actually going through a lonely moment, I will be 100% vulnerable . where I’m from I see brown skin a lot , I’m in Oceanside I see my skin color not so often and I don’t feel like I fit in so much , always feel like I’m odd when I walk outside I’m very confident, just loneliness is kicking in due to pregnancy
(Purpose of post is to meet people that are serious to meet)

in our community

Maternity Pay

How do people do it? I’ve just dropped down to the Statutory Maternity Pay amount and it is obviously a lot lower than what I have been getting previously, with my enhanced pay from work.

How on earth do people balance this money to cover household bills, personal bills, food etc? Starting to panic a little and feel like I might have to go back to work early☹️

am i missing something?

it’s 4:32, my bd woke me up around 3 wanting to have sex and i declined. he woke me up at 4:32 YELLING that he’s tired of the way i treat him and if i don’t wanna have sex let him know so he can find it somewhere else (weird as fuck to say) but i’ve tried to explain to him that multiple times cause this isn’t the first time i’ve heard this. sex these days feels like a super hard task i can’t accomplish. shit be weird as fuck

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Honest question 🥹 Does anyone else find it hard to make real mom friends on here? Some moms have messaged me, but many conversations stop at “hi, how are you?” 😂 I’d love to find a real connection with someone to talk, share, and support each other through motherhood. 💕 I speak Spanish and I’m learning English. 🤍

Appointment

Has anyone been referred to obstetrics during pregnancy? I just wondered what it was for and what they do ?

Thanks

First sweep

Booked in for my first sweep on Monday, was planning on driving myself there and back- then just thought is this crazy? Or has anyone else done the same

I have people I can ask but it just occurred to me that it might be necessary

Sex and marriage

Sex and marriage

So when it comes to sex with my husband at the moment, I can’t say I have a strong urge to do it. Every time he is the one who initiates it I can’t say I don’t want to do it. It’s not like there’s anyone else I’m attracted to and it’s not like I’m not attracted to my husband, but I’m almost 20 weeks pregnant and we have a toddler.

I don’t know what it is. It’s not that I want to break up with my husband and it’s not that I’m not attracted to him. But I don’t know. I just don’t really have the urge that he does to have sex.

And I know that we’re married and it’s good to have sex and all that and whenever he initiates it, I do do it but I don’t know. I just don’t really feel like I’m up for it but I don’t know. But also I don’t really want to make him feel bad and say I’m not really dying for it. It’s not like the sex is bad.

I also know that sometimes my husband is a bit tone deaf to me.

Like I’m not really feeling that well and he’s asking or what time are we having dinner? Or he comes in and is asking what I have for dinner and I’m thinking how about asking me how I’m feeling instead.

Like I just feel like he just cares more about his pet cat and doesn’t really carry the mental load of having a toddler that I do or having a pregnant wife.

I just feel like he’s very much just focused on himself and his cat. It’s me who sort of constantly got the mental load of making sure our toddler isn’t doing something risky, watching her just keeping up to speed with like everything like appointments, health, activities what our toddler eats and wants etc.

and then yeah sometimes he just says some really annoying things like this week one day when I was telling him to watch our toddler and he walked away and I told him that he needs to watch her he told me to calm down

and then there was another time this week that I told him that something he’s done it’s just making more work for me and he said yeah, whatever.

And then there’s also another time when this week when I said to him I was telling him you know last night when you were telling me about dinner like that was the last thing on my mind I could barely stand I could barely function and then he didn’t even say anything and then I looked and I turned around and he was just like lying on the ground stroking his cat.

I’m just like I don’t know if those things contribute to it sometimes but yeah.