Contraception

What are people's thoughts on contraception. I honestly hate the fact it has to be me that has to think about it an do something. Any advice on different types?

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Contraception really changes a woman's body. But if you make the decision to get on it. I would recommend the IUD. Ive had mine 7 years. No problems what so ever. No periods or cramps. I guess I did have cramping the first two weeks after it was put in. But your body needs time to adjust to a new foreign object. I have the mirena. Also no unplanned pregnancies.

I decided against contraceptions because I tried IUD and my body pushed it away. I can not stick on the pill because I am rubbish with routines that way. The implant was fine until the last year where I bled every other week and became an absolute monster.

So me and husband agreed that no more for me. Condoms until we are done with kids and then he'll get the snip 🙃

I wouldn't want or expect my husband to get a vasectomy, nor would I go on hormonal contraception, both options wreak havoc with hormones and can come with nasty side effects. Natural family planning/tracking your cycle and condoms are more than adequate if done accurately. We can only get pregnant for around 7 days in the month😊

I just had this conversation with my gyny. My body doesn't handle them well, so she gave me a referral for my husband to get snipped. Now it is just convincing him and finding the time to get it done.

My husband told the doc he wants a vasectomy and was told he needs to wait a year... I'm back on the pill for now

I hate the way they make me feel. I’ve tried several different ones and just doesn’t work well for me. My husband offered for us to use condoms until he can get in to get snipped. So that’s our plan for once I’m on my feet after having this baby. But if your planning on taking a pill the non hormonal ones worked best for me slynd was the one that made me feel the most normal.

I love the iud. No periods!

I recommend the IUD. Ive had no problems with mine and no periods either. Going on 8 years with it

I am on the combined pill. Was for over 10 years before my first and straight back on it after my second and last baby. I know a lot of women struggle with it but I personally struggled more without it. Unfortunately it is hard to tell what would work best for you until you try it as everyone is different.

in our community

Hello, I’m looking for advice regarding the coil.

I’m aware the coil can’t meet all of my needs but I’d like to avoid pregnancy, periods and weight gain.

I’m almost 24 with 2 children and my periods have been very heavy and very painful since having my second in November.

Can anyone give me advice on the coils if you’ve had one, what are the side effects and has it worked for you?

4wks postpartum husband tried to engage in sexual intimacy but was weird

To preface I have given him head once last week when I was feeling up to it kinda of spur of moment thing. Tonight he had a few beers and after I put the kids to bed I came into the room and he waved me over I thought he wanted a hug but he pulled me to sitting on top of him and then pulled off his bottoms. I’m exhausted and don’t want anything of they nature so I said I’m not doing anything tonight then he started to rub my clit (I was wearing a night gown) and put me on my back and tried to put his fingers inside which I said no I can’t do that it’s to early then he started to try to eat me out at this point I felt really uncomfortable and told him to stop in a more firm way and he said cmon don’t you want a release and I said no I want to go to bed I’m not ready for anything down there yet. Then he kinda pouted and went to play games. Now I’m feeling pretty weird with his actions and gross also before this he has very rarely ever eaten me out so I’m like why would you try now after I just had a baby? And I’m upset he kept trying after I said no. How do I talk to him about this later?

I settled… and now I’m paying the price (badly)

I’m looking for genuine advice because I feel like I’ve completely lost perspective.

I was in a relationship with someone for about a year and a half. During that relationship, I became pregnant, but sadly I miscarried. Instead of supporting me, he blamed me for the miscarriage, and eventually he ended the relationship.

About a year later, he came back saying he wanted to try again. I gave the relationship another chance because I genuinely loved him and thought maybe things would be different this time. Within a couple of months of getting back together, I became pregnant again. His reaction wasn’t happiness. Instead, he told me it was my responsibility to have protected myself because, in his words, we were “still seeing how things go.” That really hurt because it takes two people to create a pregnancy.

I’m now eight months pregnant, and throughout this pregnancy I’ve honestly felt like I’ve been doing it alone.

He has never made an effort to meet my family. The only reason he met my mum and uncle was because they happened to be at my house when he came over. They asked him what his intentions were after everything we’d been through and with a baby on the way. His response was simply that we were “getting to know each other.” We’d already been together for around a year and a half before breaking up, got back together, and now I’m carrying his child. I couldn’t believe that was his answer.

Ever since I got pregnant, he won’t let me come to his house, yet he comes to mine whenever he wants. He’ll come over, I’ll cook for him, he’ll sit back and relax, and then leave. I don’t feel looked after or cared for. I’m not talking about wanting expensive gifts or loads of money. I just expected more care, support and consideration, especially while carrying our baby.

I kept thinking pregnancy would make him more attentive, more loving or more present, but nothing has changed. His work always comes first. I completely understand that work is important, but surely your pregnant partner and unborn child should matter too.

A couple of days ago I called him. He texted saying he was really busy with work and would call me back later. He still hasn’t called. At this point I genuinely feel like I’m chasing him, and I’m tired of always being the one making the effort.

What also confuses me is that he expects me to put his name on the baby’s birth certificate and for the baby to have his surname. At the moment, I honestly don’t feel comfortable doing that. Given everything that’s happened and how unsupported I’ve felt throughout this pregnancy, I feel I need to think carefully about protecting myself and my baby legally before making any decisions.

The hardest thing for me to admit is that this relationship has made me question my own judgment.

The truth is, he was never really the type of man I imagined myself ending up with. I think I convinced myself that because he had a stable career, I should overlook everything else. I ignored the lack of emotional support, the lack of effort, the lack of affection and the way he made me feel. Looking back, I realise I’ve compromised so much of what I actually wanted in a partner.

Sometimes I look at my life and genuinely think, “How did I get here?” It almost feels like karma. There have been people in my past who genuinely loved me, respected me and treated me like I was everything to them, and I didn’t take those relationships seriously. Now I feel like I’ve ended up with someone who makes me question whether he even cares about me at all.

I’m not saying he’s a bad person. I know he works hard and has his own priorities. But I don’t feel emotionally safe with him, I don’t feel cherished, and I don’t feel like I’m building a life with someone who’s excited to build one with me.

I’m emotionally exhausted. I don’t know if pregnancy is making me overthink things or if these are genuine red flags that I’ve ignored for too long.

If you were in my position, what would you do? Would you stop reaching out and just focus on yourself and the baby? Am I expecting too much, or does this relationship genuinely sound as one-sided as it feels?

I’d really appreciate honest opinions, even if they’re difficult to hear. Please be kind—I’m eight months pregnant, emotional, and just trying to make the best decisions for myself and my son.

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Hello, I’m looking for advice regarding the coil.

I’m aware the coil can’t meet all of my needs but I’d like to avoid pregnancy, periods and weight gain.

4wks postpartum husband tried to engage in sexual intimacy but was weird

I settled… and now I’m paying the price (badly)

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Contraception

Trending

in our community

Hello, I’m looking for advice regarding the coil. I’m aware the coil can’t meet all of my needs but I’d like to avoid pregnancy, periods and weight gain.

4wks postpartum husband tried to engage in sexual intimacy but was weird

I settled… and now I’m paying the price (badly)

Shooting my shot

Washing

Lonely mamas 💗

Hello, I’m looking for advice regarding the coil.

I’m aware the coil can’t meet all of my needs but I’d like to avoid pregnancy, periods and weight gain.