4wks postpartum husband tried to engage in sexual intimacy but was weird
To preface I have given him head once last week when I was feeling up to it kinda of spur of moment thing. Tonight he had a few beers and after I put the kids to bed I came into the room and he waved me over I thought he wanted a hug but he pulled me to sitting on top of him and then pulled off his bottoms. I’m exhausted and don’t want anything of they nature so I said I’m not doing anything tonight then he started to rub my clit (I was wearing a night gown) and put me on my back and tried to put his fingers inside which I said no I can’t do that it’s to early then he started to try to eat me out at this point I felt really uncomfortable and told him to stop in a more firm way and he said cmon don’t you want a release and I said no I want to go to bed I’m not ready for anything down there yet. Then he kinda pouted and went to play games. Now I’m feeling pretty weird with his actions and gross also before this he has very rarely ever eaten me out so I’m like why would you try now after I just had a baby? And I’m upset he kept trying after I said no. How do I talk to him about this later?
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Yeahhh wait till he sobers up.. We want odd things when we’re drinking lol. Get your rest and try again later 🩷
Ughhhhhhhh girl i hear you, i felt so grossed out even being touched right after giving birth , I couldn’t even imagine him trying to eat me out , I would have lost it ! How are you doing now? are you going to talk to him about it ?
How often were you sexually active before? I'd tell him that you're still healing, risk of infection is still very high and depending on if you had a tear and its severity it would be bloody painful still!
He also needs to respect you. If my husband carried on like that he'd get a slap around the face drinking or not. I hope he realises that this behaviour isn't ok at any point in time and apologises to you. Tell him how it made you feel, how your body is still adjusting and healing, and say you still want him but not right now. If he isn't pulling his weight with the kids and leaving it all to you you're going to be burned out and too tired to do anything even when you are healed, so if thats an issue bring that up as well. Hope you are ok and manage to have a proper chat with him.
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