Would you take this as him using you for sex? Or just a one off?

Hes always trying to have sex with my or get me to suck him off, even when he knows it's inconvenient or when I'm tired. I'm happy to oblige. But the other day was the first time in a while that I've actually been the horny one and wanted to jump his bones. I gave him hits all day shaking my ass for him wearing a thing, telling him what I'm gonna do to him. But then all day, nothing. We get to night time when the kids are asleep and were in bed which is like 7/10 times when we usually have sex. He wasnt even a little interested. He almost seemed annoyed that I wanted to. Hes my husband but weve had a Rocky marriage for a long time. Most days are fine but sometimes we fight pretty bad. Hes told me some pretty not nice things like that he planned on breaking up with me right before we found out I was pregnant. So I don't know. Ive felt like he doesn't really love me for a long time, but he does kiss me and cuddle me. It's hard to tell how he feels.

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He seems to have checked out of the marriage ? I’m sorry if that sounded abrupt . If he can demand sex off you but the one time you’re in the mood he acts irritated then that’s showing he is focusing on his needs and comes to you when it’s convenient . Is there an emotional bond . Is there quality time and other love languages or is he just wanting physical attention ? Listen and trust your heart . All the best 💗

I think yall should do therapy if it doesn’t work you will find someone who is obsessed with you in the best way because hes not treating you how u should be treated and thats not okay

And i feel like hes kinda using you alot

I wouldn't take him turning down sex one time as a sign that he doesn't love you any more. He's allowed to not be in the mood too. But it does sound like he wants sexual activity on his terms and that the marriage needs some work- the question is whether you're both willing and ready to put the work in. Work on the emotional connection, I'd also stop just having sex or giving bjs when you're not in the mood if you aren't enjoying that, you're not obligated to!

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