Am I being too harsh?

I’m due in two weeks and my partner and I have been arguing a lot recently. We have a two year old son and he’s a great dad, cleans, does bath times, does his bit around the house, always does pick up. He will do whatever I ask him to do, but this is my problem, I feel like I’m carrying the mental load, always having to remind him of things we need to do/prepare for the baby and I’m just drained always being the one that needs to remember stuff. He’s saying that I’m nit picking and never happy and doesn’t understand why me having to remind him is a big deal. It’s got to a point where I don’t know how we can move forward as we’ve had this same argument for years. He thinks I’m exaggerating and I’m just tired of carrying all the little decisions and remembering things daily. I’m not sure what our future looks like but I’m also like is this just how men are?

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This is how men are. I think you are lucky that he does what you ask for. If you change your mindset and always have it in your head that this is how men are, then it will be easier for you to cope.

Easiest way I dealt with it with my husband is to stop reminding him and he can figure it out for himself - obviously within reason if it is health/safety then that is different. Mine was always having to remind my husband of the bins each week so I set up a reminder in my calendar and invited him to the 'event' so it would automatically send a notification the day before to his phone - he still forgets and needs reminding but where I am 36w4d he *has* to do the heavy lifting otherwise we are screwed. It's a process but it worked for us, slowly...

Seriously I think most men are like this, I'm always reminding my husband too of some things 😃it can be very annoying seriously
Now i have to set notifications for him of things that needs to be done..lol

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would you call CPS on your neighbours who you can clear as day hear through the vents “stop hitting me daddy”?

for the record, I have called. I just want to know other people’s thoughts and opinions. I was hesitant to call, because they’ve made false statements about me abusing my kids (and I don’t). what they saw and claimed was I abuse my kids because I grabbed our 2.5y old’s arm from running across the STREET when the bus was coming & from going over where they kept open canisters of weed, a bong, cigarettes and alcohol. heaven forbid I keep my child SAFE… but no that ‘s abuse to them.

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He currently goes to nursery 3 days a week and I’m weighing up the idea of sending him to a forest school on one of the nursery days instead 🌳.

Has anyone had any experience doing this? Worried about the transition from nursery and him being unsettled out of his usual routine, but also think it would be a really good experience to spend lots of time outside and exploring!

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Anyone else angry 24/7?🤣

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