Overprotective mum? Or just no support, or just mental health?

Hi guys, a little deep but I just wanted advice.
I’m a mummy to two beautiful children and I want them to have the best version of me. I feel like I have struggled with depression for a long time but I found it quite manageable but since having my 2nd 8 months ago I feel so overwhelmed, upset, angry etc. I could go on!

It’s getting to the point that I’m scared to go out alone with the children without my partner. I’m not scared of anything in particular just feel quite anxious in general.
A lot of people have been pointing out to me how I’m too over protective about my children and I don’t do anything for myself. I have no one who takes the load of me and I have them 24 hours a day, 7 days a week with no break really.
I was invited out the other night and my mother in law came to stay. Children were in bed and she dozed off. She didn’t realise the monitor had died and one of the kids were screaming so I decided to just stay in.
My mind would not let me leave that house incase she didn’t wake up and something happened to them.
Is this being over dramatic?
My partner doesn’t understand why I’m like this and I just feel myself slowly getting to an angrier version of myself.
I know it’s normal to lose yourself a bit after having children but I’m at a loss.
I can 100% handle my children but my brain makes me overthink every scenario to a point of me feeling anxious and upset to why I can’t receive help from family.
It wasn’t until I refused to leave my mother in law with them the other night that I thought maybe I’m being over dramatic or too strict on no one else looking after them,
We have little support anyway so it’s usually just me and the children while my partner works long hours.
I just want to feel better without judgement from people thinking I’m not handling mum life

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