Cleaning is super hard

Does anyone find it hard to find the motivation to clean? I'm aware I'm a new mom so everything is hard currently, even going to the bathroom, but I just hate it so much. In pregnancy cleaning was my pride and joy because I could move and have a clean house, however its been so hard to clean especially because I refuse to let others in the house do what I do. For context, my family is disabled and very... Simple with how they clean and I prefer my methods.

Now, even if the baby is asleep, all my brain screams for is dopamine. Dishes? So hard to get my mind to it. Sweeping/mopping?? MY BACK HURTS? I'm 20...

Maybe it's just processing I'm a adult now with a baby? I don't know.

Getting a shower, brushing my teeth, my medicine? All out the window lately. I have to force myself even if I get multiple breaks a day (my parents help with the baby when I'm stressed)

And despite that being a good thing to do, I feel terrible for handing her off. I just can't stand to see her cry.

Maybe I'm just stressed? But I feel I have such a easier time in parenthood compared to others. So how am I stressed enough to not be able to get energy to clean- The way I destress?

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How would you feel?

If you were spending money on yourself for the first time in 2 years (I just went back to work after 2 years of being a sahm) and your husband made comments about ‘just cause you have it doesn’t mean you have to spend it’ or ‘there’s more important things’ would you be upset? Or?

Am I wrong or a mean mom

So my oldest is 13 turning 14 this year and she has the biggest attitude and smart mouth ever. Me or her dad will ask her to do something or do her chore and she will flip out run her mouth and just say off the wall stuff but then the next day she will ask if she can go to her friends house or go hang at the park and when I tell her no she makes me feel like a horrible mean mother. I try to get her to understand that you can’t act like that one day and the next act like nothing happened because she wants to do something. Am I wrong for this

Pls tell me it gets better

Been really struggling with my 4 nearly 5 month old. There seems to be more difficult days than good managable ones. He just seems so upset all the time, doesn’t want to be held or put down, lay down or sat up. I don’t know what to do

Missing my old active self

Hi everyone! I’m a mum to a 2-month-old baby boy. Before having him, I used to go to the gym at least four times a week or go for long walks. Right now, I feel like I can’t do anything. Because I’m breastfeeding, even going for a walk feels like a huge deal—I never know when he’s going to cry for food. I also can’t go to the gym because I moved here from Italy 12 years ago, and with my family over there, I have very little support nearby (my partner’s family helps a bit, but it's limited).
I spend most of my days sitting on the sofa, watching sunny days go by. I feel emotionally drained and really bad about myself, but I just don’t know what to do to start feeling better. To top it off, my baby will only sleep on me—if I try to put him in his carrycot, he lasts a few minutes before screaming again. Has anyone experienced anything similar? Do you have any tips?

Have you been told by dentists that babies can’t feel their teeth come in??

I’ve never heard this but my friend says she’s been repeatedly gaslit by many dentists saying that infants can’t feel their teeth breaking in… I always assumed they did cause I know they do !! That’s so crazy to be told by professionals… why else do my kids cry when their gums are bright red and only during that period of teeth cutting… 🤨🙂‍↔️

Pp anxiety or normal?

Hey, can anyone tell me if they relate and it’s normal, or if I’m verging into anxiety territory?

I just want my baby to be happy & healthy at all times, but to the point I’m getting fearful. I’m so fearful a lot of the time of my baby getting sick. I hate when people touch his hands or his face, I actually kinda just hate when people want to hold him too. Then when he starts crying inconsolably and has an upset tummy or vomits (not spit up) I freak out thinking he’s caught a bug or something. I’m so scared of him being too hot when it’s warm. Or even sometimes when he might just be falling asleep and his eyes roll, I think he’s going to have a seizure or something. Etc etc.

My husband is so chill with everything, and I can’t tell if that’s the right approach or he’s being lax.

Someone put my mind at rest that I’m not alone. Or tell me if I need therapy haha. Or tips on how to overcome it? X