Everything's NO!

I seriously need advice im losing my sh!t, my LG is 3 and everything out her mouth is no no no NO! To make it worse we've started her final attempt at potty training so that combination is just beyond frustrating, i honestly am struggling to cope with the constant no's shell have days where not that bad and others like today I honestly wanted drop her back off at the hospital. We had a really good day the other day she managed 4 wees on the toilet no accidents but had nothing but accidents and tantrums. I need help navigate this cos im really pushed to the limit with this stage and I need some help!

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Argument with husband

Would you be annoyed/upset if you were meeting some friends for a drink and you’d got yourself and your son ready and as you were putting your shoes on and getting your toddler’s bag of things together, your husband just left the house with your son and didn’t communicate he was going to start walking ahead? I phoned him and he said he was on his way to the pub. I’d got our son ready and was getting my own shoes on and his snacks and bag together and he didn’t have the decency to wait for me so we could walk to the pub together, or even communicate he was going to walk ahead.

Help from husband

Am feeling really overwhelmed and don't know whether I am expecting too much from my husband .. sorry it's long!

I'm on maternity leave and feel like I am literally doing everything. My husband is self employed and his work is demanding and he's pretty much working all the time.
Some days he works from home or comes home late 11/12am so I'm with baby 24/7.

Don't get me wrong I am lucky in the sense that he can work from home and will take us out during the day around his commitments. He provides for us and does a lot for us. I don't have a car so rely on him for everything so can't go to far on the bus. We have been planning to get a car as I'm getting frustrated having to wait on him and not being able to meet up with friends as I have to always wait on him. I constantly feel like I'm feeding, prepping food, cleaning, laundry ect. He doesn't help out unless I ask or get annoyed. He says that he works and that I see to much on social media about husbands helping out.

I am not even asking him to do much, it's simple things like cleaning up after himself, or emptying the bin putting the laundry away. The other day his laundry was sitting here for a whole week until I put it away. I get he works and it's demanding and he says if he has had a 9-5 it would be different but he has to make the money as I am not working.

He constantly on the phone, so loud even when baby is sleeping. I have to ask him to change his nappy or feed him breakfast without him thinking let me help out. He'll see the bottles that need to be washed and he will just leave them there until I ask. I breastfeed him throughout the day and night but have introduced a bottle for bedtime but even that he won't give him
Unless I really am tired? And then it's still me having to put him to sleep as he 'wants me'. And it's always not knowing when he's going to come home so 99.9% am doing bath and bedtime.

When we are out he is hands on and wants to hold him do everything but at home he will hand me him back as quick as possible as he needs to go or go toilet or something. I explained to him that I don't get that time and I just want some help without having to ask.

We had an argument today whilst talking our son to swimming, he didn't have his swimming shorts they were in the Landry and he said that I'm not doing anything why hasn't it been washed .. it really p'ed me off.

When baby is asleep I literally don't sit down, I'm doing laundry, cleaning prepping. Only this week I have told my self no when he's sleeping I'm going to sit and do something for myself.

He doesn't underhand that looking after baby is tiring and exhausting, and I would appreciate some help without having to ask or it being an inconvenience.

How would you handle your friends 4 yo being greedy with toys, hitting your almost 21 month old, catching her doing mean things?

I tell her don’t hit her or for example she was in my daughters stroller lifting her feet to my daughters face and I tell her don’t put your feet in her face . Her mom tells her to not hit or share or she will literally give her the same toy and she will still
Want the one my daughter has. She has an 11 yo older sister idk if she’s mean to her and that’s where she learns it from but she’s in daycare I would think she would know how to play w younger kids

Help, advice.

Im currently going thru a phase (i hope) with my 7 year old. Hes very mouthy and sarcastic. When speaking to me my daughter. Hes always in a demanding tone. He doesn't talk to hus father like that but he has tried. I try to talk, take certain toys or activities away but I always break and give in. I feel/know that he knows he can get over on me and he uses that to his advantage. When he decides not to listen or starts being mouthy. I will try to redirect him or say things like we don't talk like that in this house. We respect and show love in this house hold. Even then he will stomp shout. Then his father will intervene and then this Lil boy wants to get some act right but why does it take for his father to get involved for him to listen to me?? I on the other hand will get upset and cry because at that moment I feel overwhelmed out of touch. Like why can't the child ive carried and birth not respect me or listen.

To the parents who don't pop their kids. How do you get them to listen??

Pushing my buttons

My MIL likes to push boundaries. Most recent is I was feeding little one and she was getting distracted by the noise of the tv. So I shut it off. My MIL then goes “she just wants to watch” and proceeds to hold a phone up to my baby with some baby video playing. I told her we won’t be doing that. She can see TVs obvs for a quick second but we rather her be read a book or play with toys. She laughed and said “you’ll get to a point where you’ll put her down and let her watch tv so you can do stuff. That how we used to do it”

I just don’t get it. She always pushes things we don’t want and brings up what she did 25 years ago. My husband has spoken to her as well as myself. It is just baffling

2 year age gap advice

I’ve only just found out I’m pregnant so excuse me mildly crashing out out of pure fear and anxiety.
Of course I’m over the moon and so blessed that I get to do this all over again and make my son a big brother but it’s really just hit me how the hell am I going to do this. I know people do very often have more than 1 child but he’ll be just over 2 by the time this baby is born and he’ll still need me so much I’ve got so many thoughts going round my head of how I’ll cope as I know how time and life consuming newborns are and I don’t ever want him to feel left out. Please tell me these are normal thoughts and it will all work out somehow 😅