Daycare?

Any good daycare recommendations around the Naperville area? Please let me know. Thanks.

in our community

Is this rude or correct

So I had a problem I am due an operation on Thursday and will leave my baby with my MIL, should I leave a list telling her how much milk she takes, thats it's every three to four hours and how to wash the bottles, I got eight bottles, I am having my tonsils out as for nearly two years, it took the doctors a year to refer me to a specialist and another year to see one by that point I was twenty weeks pregnant and I went into the appointment and told them this and I didn't want to go through the hassle of waiting, they looked at the problem and actually said if I wasn't pregnant they would've of taken them out at the weekend, well they know I had my baby and I am due to go in this Thursday for the operation, I am nervous. However I have to leave my baby with my mother law, I have no problem with this, three children herself and seven grandchildren, she's wonderful and my daughter loves her but obviously I do everything for my baby, feeding, washing etc while my husband works, well she looks after my baby while I have the operation and then she comes home to me and my husband, my husband knows he has to look after the baby but he's never made a bottle or washed them and the baby is struggling to settle with him at the moment wants mum, I was going to wear a really big t shirt on the run up so my husband can wear that to help and is it worth getting the bottles with the teats attached to help my husband or just give him the same list as my MIL, any other suggestions.
Don't worry I have a brilliant relationship with my husband mother and I am quite happy for her to have my daughter.

Curious if there's any difference with this. Has your child/ you (if your child isn't school age yet) experienced bullying?

I know it's likely everywhere but I can't homeschool with my career and nervous about my daughter starting school.

Am I a bad mom?

My partner and I have 2 children together (aged 3 and 1). He barely contributes to our household financially, leaving me to bear the financial stress alone. I have taken out 3 loans within the 5 years of being with him to help us get by. After our first child was born he quit his job to start his own dj business 🙄. So instead of working every day he now only works a few days a week at night and on occasion he does extra gigs for weddings, etc. On average he contributes $200-$300 each month. Mind you, daycare for 2 kids with subsidy is $950. We have rent, bills, debt, EVERYTHING. It's too much on my own and I'm drowning. He refuses to get an additional part time job, even a work from home position.
I don't want to break up our family but I've allowed him to ruin me financially. Now I can't even support myself and my kids. Am I a bad mom if I stay in this?

Husband lusting online

Husband can’t stop lusting over thirst videos of women online. I’ve confronted him about it twice and he always says sorry but not long after I find something else. He just gets better at hiding what he watches. I’ve told him how it’s making me feel uncomfortable with myself and how I feel ugly but he continues. Clearly he’s addicted to having something new but I just hate the feeling. I don’t get why he has to watch it all the time and I hate how I look so much more now. They look nothing like me, typical big boobs, ass and curvy body with beautiful faces. I already felt insecure postpartum and this has heightened it so much more which he knows too. I feel devastated when I see them on his phone, he then realises I’m being off and when I go on his phone again it’s all cleared. I don’t even say anything now because what’s left for me to say.

Help

I just wondered if anyone else is feeling the same way- I love my baby sooo so much and feel guilty writing this but I just don’t know if I love every part, I get sad when I’m alone and almost dread taking care of him myself even though he’s pretty easy going! I constantly plan things and never really have time at home with him alone. I feel selfish and just constantly wanting to be with adults.
I had a really busy job and I’m missing having the working life but also I know when I start to go back to work I’ll feel guilty and sad this part is over. I’m also suffering with PPA and trying to get help (having to wait a full month to talk to someone).
I also worry I haven’t bonded with him, like what does that even look like? I never breastfed which also makes me feel guilty.
I’m just having a hard time feeling happy in this stage I guess. It’s so confusing!!!

How are we entertaining our 5 month olds?

My little one can crawl and roll but not sit yet and entertaining him is getting quite difficult. I’m struggling to also go to get something without him rolling half way across the room and banging his head. I’m struggling to entertain him as he’ll no longer lie and bat toys but he’s not at the point of playing with the next stage up toy. Along with my 2.5 year old jumping off sofas I’m knackered just stopping them both from hurting themselves and wondering what toys are entertaining your 5 month olds?