Having a hard time FTM

I am 4 months PP and it’s been such an emotional roller coaster. I had the baby blues pretty bad the first 2 weeks but I slowly started to feel better. The next were weeks I could still feel it lingering. I started to go out more once I got cleared at my 6 weeks PP appt to start feeling a sense of myself again and it worked. Then I feel like I started to have some resentment towards my husband cause he can just leave and enjoy his time away but I am always worried about the baby. We have been arguing a lot more since the baby came is just exhausting cause I know we care about each other and want this to work but it’s just back and forth it seems like sometimes. I recently went back to work about a month ago and I am still having mixed feelings about it. It’s nice being with other people other than my family but I miss my little girl so much when I am gone and feel guilty sometimes for not missing her enough. Last but not least, I feel like I’m
Not doing enough as a mother. I work 40 hours a week and sometimes I would like to go out to see a movie or golf but my mother would have to watch her and I feel bad that she has to watch her so much cause she watches her when I work. I feel like I am becoming a new person since becoming a mom and don’t get me wrong I love it but at the same time I don’t want to lose myself and resent my daughter later for having to give up different things. I know this is more of a rant but I just feel alone sometimes even when it feels like I have a village behind me.

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Holiday disappointment

Just a vent ! Looking to see if anyone can relate or make me feel better as feeling alone with it .. currently last day being abroad on holiday with the family (7 of us) and my 1 year old daughter! Feeling so overwhelmed and disheartened.. she did so well with the travelling and the first day then it just went down hill.. she has been grizzly from the time she wakes up every day till bed time, with constant entertainment she can be ok but not for very long, I’ve taken her to the room, changed things up, done naps different each time and she’s just not happy. I think she picked up something as she’s losing her voice, had a slight temperature at one point but went down, her fingers have been in her mouth constantly so also may be teething, but no medication has worked. It’s been so hard to watch her miserable, not eating much, not wanting to be in the high chair so we had to split dinners with some people going to dinner and others watching her as it’s been too much for her. My family have been great, helped out and been supportive. As I’ve looked around the resort, yes babies were crying but parents just seemed like they could soothe their babies, some families looked like they were having the best time, I just felt like we were the only couple really struggling. My family said she hasn’t been too bad and are considering a holiday next year.. I just don’t feel validated at all.

Has anyone else been scared to go out with your baby ?

My baby girl will be 6 months old this week.

When she was almost 5 months, I took her on the train for the first time. I didn’t realise there was an event on that day, so it was absolutely packed with loud music, people talking and laughing.

She got so overwhelmed that she cried uncontrollably the whole journey. I couldn’t calm her down at all until we got off the train.

Since then, I’ve been so anxious about taking her anywhere that involves the train or the Underground. I think the experience really traumatised me.

Has anyone else been through something similar? How did you overcome that fear?

Lip tie

Is this a lip tie?

Cleaning after meal

I know a lot of you probably already do this, but if not, here’s my mom hack I discovered today 😂
My baby is a messy eater, so I always bathe him after meals but today instead I put his Bumbo seat in the sink. While he splashes, I rinse him off, wash the dishes, and load the dishwasher at the same time.
In 10 minutes, the baby was clean, the dishes were done, and all I had left was to wipe the floor. He had a blast, and of course I made sure there was nothing sharp in the sink and stayed with him the whole time.

Best mom hack I’ve discovered so far lmao

Let’s talk bras

Hi everyone 👋 mom of three,
My littlest is 1.5 and I am sick of unsexy nursing bras 😂. Thing is, my breasts have obviously changed. Both have lost fullness at the top, one when I lay down I see has stretched (rip my beautiful plump boobs) , when I lay down there are gaps 😭 . I bought a skims bra per AI suggestion but the fit was not right, it would dig onto my back and my nipples showed … a lot of propaganda out there for shapemint bras but hesitant I don’t know what to buy. Are you all happy with your bras? What are you wearing ?

Baths

How often should my newborn get a sponge bath (still has her umbilical cord)? I’m a first time mom. I’ve heard people say everyday and other people say once a week. How often does she need a bath? She’s a week and two days old