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i feel like my opinion doesnt matter. if i want to call the doctor about something that worries me its just ‘oh she’s fine, you always do that, that’s what the matter with you’ or did i ask his mom first. its always someone else telling me that she’s fine when i think she’s not. that i just get overlooked or ignored because im a first time mom.

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I feel you on that one

You are the mother, your opinion is the most important out of all! Don't let other hold you back on what you want to do for your child.

Change doctors if you can. This is unacceptable and way too common. your feelings are valid. YOURE her mom nobody else girl. you carried and birthed her nobody on this earth knows her like you. and no one will care for her well being like you. if you have a concern PRESS THE ISSUE. i’m a very timid person but we have to be assertive for them. i’m sorry this is happening mama.

No one can advocate for your baby like you can mama. If one doctor won’t listen to you. Try to find another. If you can’t, then every time you bring something to their attention and they treat you or talk to you like that.. tell them to put your concerns in Your baby girls chart along with their replies that way if something (God forbid) becomes of it, it’s documented.. as well as how they acted about it..

Love, luck, prayers, and good vibes are with you and your baby girl, mama.🫂

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Holiday disappointment

Just a vent ! Looking to see if anyone can relate or make me feel better as feeling alone with it .. currently last day being abroad on holiday with the family (7 of us) and my 1 year old daughter! Feeling so overwhelmed and disheartened.. she did so well with the travelling and the first day then it just went down hill.. she has been grizzly from the time she wakes up every day till bed time, with constant entertainment she can be ok but not for very long, I’ve taken her to the room, changed things up, done naps different each time and she’s just not happy. I think she picked up something as she’s losing her voice, had a slight temperature at one point but went down, her fingers have been in her mouth constantly so also may be teething, but no medication has worked. It’s been so hard to watch her miserable, not eating much, not wanting to be in the high chair so we had to split dinners with some people going to dinner and others watching her as it’s been too much for her. My family have been great, helped out and been supportive. As I’ve looked around the resort, yes babies were crying but parents just seemed like they could soothe their babies, some families looked like they were having the best time, I just felt like we were the only couple really struggling. My family said she hasn’t been too bad and are considering a holiday next year.. I just don’t feel validated at all.

Has anyone else been scared to go out with your baby ?

My baby girl will be 6 months old this week.

When she was almost 5 months, I took her on the train for the first time. I didn’t realise there was an event on that day, so it was absolutely packed with loud music, people talking and laughing.

She got so overwhelmed that she cried uncontrollably the whole journey. I couldn’t calm her down at all until we got off the train.

Since then, I’ve been so anxious about taking her anywhere that involves the train or the Underground. I think the experience really traumatised me.

Has anyone else been through something similar? How did you overcome that fear?

Lip tie

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Cleaning after meal

I know a lot of you probably already do this, but if not, here’s my mom hack I discovered today 😂
My baby is a messy eater, so I always bathe him after meals but today instead I put his Bumbo seat in the sink. While he splashes, I rinse him off, wash the dishes, and load the dishwasher at the same time.
In 10 minutes, the baby was clean, the dishes were done, and all I had left was to wipe the floor. He had a blast, and of course I made sure there was nothing sharp in the sink and stayed with him the whole time.

Best mom hack I’ve discovered so far lmao

Let’s talk bras

Hi everyone 👋 mom of three,
My littlest is 1.5 and I am sick of unsexy nursing bras 😂. Thing is, my breasts have obviously changed. Both have lost fullness at the top, one when I lay down I see has stretched (rip my beautiful plump boobs) , when I lay down there are gaps 😭 . I bought a skims bra per AI suggestion but the fit was not right, it would dig onto my back and my nipples showed … a lot of propaganda out there for shapemint bras but hesitant I don’t know what to buy. Are you all happy with your bras? What are you wearing ?

Baths

How often should my newborn get a sponge bath (still has her umbilical cord)? I’m a first time mom. I’ve heard people say everyday and other people say once a week. How often does she need a bath? She’s a week and two days old