C section or Vaginal birth?

What birth did you have after a 3rd/4th degree tear?

Please only answer if you had a 3 or 4 degree tear (not a 1st, 2nd or a episiotomy).

Thank you!

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July 27, baby August made his debut!

Coming at you live from the newborn trenches, ladies! Officially into the second week of motherhood, and as difficult as it is, good god was it worth every second of pain (newborn tired is better than pregnancy tired and I will die on that hill)

Excited to connect with other July moms. We got this!! 🩵🫡🫠

Am i normal?

I'm 9 months pp. I'm the biggest I've ever been, I am really trying to lose weight but it's not seeming to be shifting. I feel run down, ugly and just like the shell of myself. I love my baby with every part of me but I feel like I'm lost. I don't know my style, I don't know what I enjoy. I don't know what I want to do with what little free time I have.
I'm so burnt out constantly and tired I don't think any amount of sleep will fix me. I feel like I have to rush my way through anything where I'm away from my baby. Constantly comparing my worth to someone else and feeling less because I'm bigger. This is all tied to other people making comments about my weight and almost saying I'm less attractive now.
I feel like I'm failing at everything. I try my best with the housework, cooking nutritious meals and looking after everything and everyone but I'm bored. I feel like its an endless cycle of make food, clean up after making food, laundry, housework, changing nappies, bedtime and then I'm just doomscrolling because i have no capacity, I know my life will never get any easier and I'm living to make sure my baby is well looked after. I want her to have everything I didn't have and more.
I love my husband, my family is ok but we're not close. I don't really have many friends and a lot of the time I feel really alone like I have no one to talk to.
I know my life is good, I have a supportive husband, a nice house (although messy) a beautiful baby so I am grateful but is this normal? Does everyone feel so overwhelmed, burnt out and not sure who they are or what brings them joy? Is this part of motherhood and matrescence or is there something wrong with me?

Fundal Height & Growth

Has anyone ever experienced something like this before please? I have obviously been sent for a growth scan which is on Thursday but just looking to see if anyone has had similar and all been ok.
This is my 4th baby.

Cramps and hardening

Morning all. 21 weeks +6 and since last night I've had period-like cramps and more noticeable on/off hardening of my bump. Googling I think it's probably a combination of ligament stretching and Braxton Hicks but I've called midwives just to be safe. They've advised to take paracetamol, rest and see if it eases.
Has anyone else experienced this?

Midwife experience

I had my first booking appointment with a midwife at Whipps Cross last week, and she turned out to be worryingly incompetent. Any views of that hospital?

How long to get dating scan confirmation??

I had a midwife appointment last week on Wednesday I was 9 weeks 6 days so close to
10 weeks. She said I’d get confirmation soon about when my dating scan 12 weeks would be but I still haven’t heard anything. I really want to know when I’ll get booked in how long did it take you all?