Vent (super long)

I just need to get this out I have nobody in my life to talk to, when I talk about it they don’t listen or care cause it’s not happening to them.. so broke up with my sons father a few months ago but I was very hesitant cause I can’t get job and I would have no one to support me but my mom kept telling not to stay and that she would help me. So I left and his dad was sending me $150 a week for groceries, diapers and baby essentials, but then he stopped. I asked him a few days ago if he could get some things for the baby and he said couldn’t cause HE needed groceries, so I had to ask my mom to buy him groceries and I feel awful for asking cause she’s struggling to pay for herself. My living situation isn’t the best I live with my mom, 2 older brothers, my brother’s wife and their son, there is also 3 dogs and 2 cats. And my oldest brother comes over all the time with his 2 kids that DESTROY our house, steal things, break things, make messes, fill the sink with dishes and I have to clean it all up, fight, yell all hours of the night, and their dad does nothing cause they aren’t bothering him, and this last weekend they destroyed the toilet so I had to keep going to the gas station to use the bathroom for almost a week. My other brother his wife and son they don’t really clean up after themselves or their dogs they piss on everything and chew the baby toys and nobody cares. My mom just complains but doesn’t do anything cause she doesn’t want to deal with it. But just the other night I dropped my car off the get the inspection and it failed I need to get new tires and get the strut fixed, it’s gonna cost over $700, and I don’t have a job to pay for it, I use my car to instacart but i haven’t had my car to myself in months my brother uses it for work cause he had to turn in his plates and then my mom just found out she has to turn in her plates for a year because of my brother so they both use my car I don’t have it during the week, so I have no source of income, I also babysit my nephew but I’m not getting paid for that cause the car used to be my brothers and the money I would make from babysitting is going to pay the car off. I’m trying to sell my pc but my nephew stole my mouse and keyboard and nobody cares they just laughed when I told them.. I’m so depressed I can’t even afford to take care of my son or even myself, I feel like an awful mom cause I’m so stressed out, I never get a break from being a mom, his dad takes him once a week for the night but he gets him right before his bedtime and I pick him up first thing in the morning cause he will call me 100 times cause he wants to go play basketball. I went out once last weekend for the first time in my entire life I stayed up until 6am and he tired to guilt me cause he couldn’t go to the gym cause I woke up at 11am. I just don’t know what to do anymore I want to leave with my son and not come back, but I can’t get a job cause of the cost of childcare and I’m also a high school drop out so I don’t have a diploma. I’m so lost I just want to give up on everything

I just needed to get it out cause I’ve been crying all day and nobody around me cares. There is so much more I could go on about but I’m not going to

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Who is in the wrong?

Car seat has been in my car for the last week. Husband switched it over this morning to take our baby to nursery but didn't tell me. I left the house to pick him up this afternoon and the car seat was obviously missing. Had to hand (upset) baby back to nursery and go back and get it.

We do have another car seat in the house which he could have taken, but he took the one out of my car.

I'm angry but should I be? He says I should have checked the car seat was in the car before I left but I had no reason to think it wouldn't be! Am I expected.to check every single time, when he could have just told me he took it out 🙄

relationship breakdown

ladies, I am so stuck. me and my partner have been close to breaking up a few times due to online infidelity on his part, for the sake of our little one and him saying he didn't wanna lose me we stayed together.. but now I'm just ugh, I'm so scared to leave because there's no way I can afford my home by myself - UC probably won't help with the majority of my rent as I'm in a 3 bed, but because my other son's dad claims the CB he's not recognised as living with me (long story!) my little man is breastfed, and just I don't know what to do. 😭
I'm a bit messy, always have been and I try to do as much tidying as I can but it's never good enough and it seems that he holds no accountability for his actions in this relationship and that it's all me.
any advice? :(

Is the Tonies Box worth it?

Please comment with your experience and include the age of your child 💜 if you could explain how they interact with it that would be great too!

Screen time when they're ill

We have a 4-year-old and a 2-year-old. We try to limit screen time as much as we can and only do TV (no tablets or phone screens). They can watch a Julia Donaldson film or a few episodes of Bluey at the weekends and the odd 30 mins if needed during the week but not every day or anything.

They both have a stomach bug at the moment and feel rubbish with cramps, etc. I'm letting them do what I would want to do, which is curl up on the sofa and watch TV. However, I'm so conscious that when this passes, I'm going to have a nightmare cutting the TV out again. Do other parents do this and throw rules out the window when their kids are ill?!

toddler size?

so my toddler turns 3 on the 24th. she’s always been really small and petite. i just see her and think she’s so much smaller than other children her age. she’s only just come out of 12-18 clothing and some 2-3 clothes absolutely drown her. her health visitor said she’s not concerned for her height as she’s reaching her developmental milestones. she eats okay a lot of beige food but amazing with her fruit and some veggies. but she’s a snacker. if i put a full meal infront of her she won’t eat it. it’s not just her height her waist is tiny everything about her is just so small 😭 photo is her trying on a 2-3 coat the other day

Influencers and homeschool

Hot take maybe?
Anyone else find it odd that social media has become so performative that we have so many mom influencers talk about homeschooling (doing learning activities) their child meanwhile the child is 2-3 years old.. like yeah I fear that’s just called parenting lol saying you’re homeschooling because you taught your kid the ABC’s is actually wild to me because why is it now being treated like going above and beyond or as if they’re making a specific choice to do these things. Like if they didn’t choose to “homeschool” (probably so they can make content about it) would they just not be teaching their kids these things lol (this obviously doesn’t apply to school age kids that are actually doing homeschool)

I guess the bigger picture is how odd it is to watch content creators make a spectacle out of everything they can so that they can make money off of it, I hope it most moms can see it for what it is and don’t feel like they aren’t doing enough.