relationship breakdown

ladies, I am so stuck. me and my partner have been close to breaking up a few times due to online infidelity on his part, for the sake of our little one and him saying he didn't wanna lose me we stayed together.. but now I'm just ugh, I'm so scared to leave because there's no way I can afford my home by myself - UC probably won't help with the majority of my rent as I'm in a 3 bed, but because my other son's dad claims the CB he's not recognised as living with me (long story!) my little man is breastfed, and just I don't know what to do. 😭
I'm a bit messy, always have been and I try to do as much tidying as I can but it's never good enough and it seems that he holds no accountability for his actions in this relationship and that it's all me.
any advice? :(

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I have a 2 year old and 10 week old. I gave birth second time via emergency C-section and since had an infection in the wound that only recently went away. I have days where I feel sick as a dog and the little one still isn't sleeping great and wants to be held all the time. I'm breastfeeding and trying to pump to build up a small stash for dad to do some feeds.

Last night we got into a massive argument. My partner works full time but also has a business he is trying to get up and running. He will come back for the eldest's bedtime for an hour or two, then head back out until early hours of the morning. I barely see him.

Since my second was born I've struggled a lot with mental health. I done everything with the eldest prior to birth so I struggled so bad when I could no longer do it. I am back lifting him now since 6 weeks.

Last night I asked if dad could stay home because I feel overwhelmed from no sleep and looking after the baby who is cluster feeding. It ended in an argument where he said he's tired too, he works long hours and me messaging him to say I'm proud of him he hates because he doesn't think I'm supporting him when I ask him if he's in or out. He's blamed his dip in sales on me, said my job is the kids and that I need to stop moaning because I'm depressing him. I pay on my own for the eldest to go to nursery a few days a week and he said that he doesn't understand why I'm still overwhelmed. I've tried explaining multiple times the difficulty with no sleep, cluster feeding and my mental state overall. I do all the food shopping and housework. He doesn't have to do any of that bar sometimes putting the bins out.

Am I asking too much of him? He doesn't want me speaking to him about my day if it's been hard. Doesn't want me to say if I'm ill. I do love the man but finding I'm feeling alone and without support. Last night he said he isn't happy and slept downstairs. Day to day I have to fit showering around the kids. I eat if I can find the time. He will help with bedtime, get his food sorted and I have to ask him to hold the baby while I try and eat.

Am I asking too much of him?

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