Is it wrong to hope that people around you (aka your village) should support you e.g. Offer to babysit once in a while etc

Nobody owns a crystal ball. Expecting things without expressing those expectations is ALWAYS going to lead to *your* disappointment. If you want someone to babysit. Ask them.

You aren’t wrong for wanting a break, everybody gets tired and needs to recharge in their own way. But being upset with people for not offering is not necessarily fair to them because they cannot know that you want that unless you express it.

Some people don’t ask because they don’t want to overstep, others don’t ask because they don’t want you to feel pressured into saying yes. I would suggest reaching out to your support system and asking them if they would be willing to watch her from time to time.

I think it depends on how people act during your pregnancy, because if the offers are there during pregnancy and then don’t materialise once baby is here, it’s well within your rights to feel a little disappointed. But I learnt to never expect people to do for you what you would do for them, and if there’s ever an ounce of hesitation when they’re asked, then don’t ask again.
Villages are great, but sometimes that you and your partner making it work without outside help.

It is nice if someone offers too, especially if you’re the type of person who doesn’t like asking for help. It’s a bit awkward if I ask. If they’re the ones asking or offering it shows that they care about your wellbeing and actually want to do it if that makes sense

I don’t think your post comes across as expecting or feeling entitled at all , imo , there’s a big difference between hoping someone might offer and expecting them to. You even said you waited until you were ready because you didn’t expect help. I think it’s completely understandable and valid to feel a bit disappointed when you have family and friends around but nobody has ever thought to say, “Why don’t youse have a break? & ill have the kids for a few hours.” That’s not saying anyone owes you childcar , just that it would’ve been a lovely thing for them to do

Maybe family will offer once LO is a bit older . I know my in laws never babysat till my son was nearly 2 yrs old and it was for 4 hours .

I don't think you should expect them to offer but you should be able to ask.

Yes, it is disappointing no one has offered to babysit. But this is also a good moment to ask, not only to have a break once in a while but it is also important to have someone for emergencies.

Does your friend have children?

It is normal to ask and need help. That doesn't make you entitled.